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talaniman · Oct 9, 2006, 01:21 PM

I read somewhere once "What is wrong with today's society??? Women can't keep their legs closed when they're single and can't keep em open when they're married!..."

Loved this response mom, have to send it too all my married friends.

Lianne20 · Oct 10, 2006, 10:38 AM

UPDATE! Saw him last night, and we just spent the night at his, talking and watching DVDs. Didn't jump into bed with him and he didn't even ask.
He bought us a pizza and while we were eating he suddenly looked up at me and said "so, what's going on with us then?". Men are so confusing sometimes! I just told him I think he's cool, and I'd like to get to know him, I want to take things slow etc. He agreed!
So we're going on a "proper" date on Friday, he's taking me to a restaurant.
I'll let you know how it goes...

Wildcat21 · Oct 10, 2006, 12:08 PM

Awesome. That's is the exact way to go. SLOW! Excellent!

momincali · Oct 10, 2006, 02:06 PM

How exciting!! Fun, but slow!

Lianne20 · Oct 13, 2006, 08:38 AM

Ohhhh I feel so so stupid! It all ended in tears. I should have known better.
He's ignoring me now, told me he had some girl round his house bla bla bla. I just get too attached to people before I even know them. Im just craving a bit of attention I think!
Well, I should have known better and Ive learnt my lesson. Doh!

talaniman · Oct 13, 2006, 08:57 AM

Chin-up. Now you know what works... and what doesn't.

Wildcat21 · Oct 13, 2006, 09:04 AM

Well - all I can say is - 'fast and furious' generally leads to 'crash and burn'.

Take it SLOW going forward. No more one night stands. No more. I have women friends who wear their UGLIST pair of underwear out on girls night out to remind them that they aren't that easy - keep their pants on.

See - you make things too easy for a guy and he won't respect you. You obviously can't trust him.

Get to know someone first before jumping into the sack - always. Please for the love of god change.

This is just a learning experience. The guy turned out to be a jerk. You have to kiss a lot of frogs.

I think you should work on yourself now. New hobbies, go to the gym and work out a lot, be with your famil yand friends.

How the hell do you get so attached to someone you know nothing about??

dancingtwins · Oct 13, 2006, 09:44 AM

First of all think about how little he will respect you when you had sex with him right after meeting him.. Come on

GO SLOW! Get to know each other This may just be a lust thing

Lianne20 · Oct 14, 2006, 11:54 AM

How do I get attached to someone I don't even know? Well, I think its because Ive been in 2 serious relationships since I was 15, and to be honest, Im just not the type of girl who likes to be alone. I kind of don't feel complete without a man in my life, and I know that's wrong!! I know I need to be independent, but I love cuddles too much!
But I know I need to sort it out and Im trying, I really am :o

talaniman · Oct 14, 2006, 12:03 PM

Originally Posted by Lianne20

How do i get attached to someone i dont even know? well, I think its coz Ive been in 2 serious relationships since i was 15, and to be honest, Im just not the type of girl who likes to be alone. I kinda dont feel complete without a man in my life, and I know thats wrong!!! I know I need to be independent, but I love cuddles too much!
But I know I need to sort it out and Im trying, I really am :o

Just slow down and do it right. Your are responsible for your own happiness, no one but you.

Wildcat21 · Oct 14, 2006, 01:39 PM

Go slow. The guy should EARN the right to sleep with you.

Build barriers. Build tests - they have have to pass them to sleep with you.

Obviously you need to work on your selfesteem. A gal who feels great about her self will not jump into bed.

You need to find a great guy to that again. What like SIX dayes and see how goodf he is.

J_9 · Oct 14, 2006, 02:16 PM

Originally Posted by Lianne20

Im just not the type of girl who likes to be alone. I kinda dont feel complete without a man in my life, and I know thats wrong!!!

Actually, this speaks volumes. It shows that you have very low self-esteem. A person with high self-esteem feels complete within herself. A partner then becomes an extension of one's self.

You need to work on things that you are good at. Stay away from men at this point. No more quick jumps in the sack. Make them chase you, if they want you they will chase you.

Wildcat advises this for men, but it works for women also.

You do not like to be alone because you do not feel comfortable with you. Before a healthy relationship can exist you must feel comfortable with who you are.