[T-Dawggy 15]

Ok, I've been going out wit my girl for a good 4 months now, and for the first month and a half Everything seemed fine and dandy, but then just about at the 2 month marker, Everything started to seem a little fishy. She would stop answering my phone calls, not respond to my text messages for a day or two, or if she did, it was late at night, and I would always try to set up a day to hangout with her, but she would either blow me off or tell me some kind of excuse like "i have alot of homework" or "i have a migrane, can u come over tomarrow" or "im with my cousin in the city, ill text u when i get home", I just don't know what to do anymore, because I still really like her a lot, but I'm not sure if she still likes me. Tonight, she said that she doesn't want to hurt me anymore, and that it would be better off to just break up. Im worried that she might be cheating on me or something. Someone please help me out... What is her deal?

[Gemini54]

What's her deal? She's just not that into you anymore!

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news T-Dawggy, but she's giving you all the signs - the excuses, the brush offs and now she's said she wants to break up.

You don't have to be a Rhodes scholar to understand what she's telling you - It's over man.

[Romefalls19]

Her feelings have change, while she says she wants to break up, she's already flew off your radar and is done with the relationship.

Read the NC Rules and FAQ and get busy

[I wish]

She seems pretty clear to me. She slowly drifted away from you and then eventually she let you know that her feelings have changed. It's not like she did it out of nowhere. She slowly gave you less and less attention in the last 2 months of your relationships. She was just waiting for the right moment to tell you. Be glad that she didn't lead you on.

It's time to accept and move on.

[none12345]

You guys spent enough time for her to realize this is not what she wants. She makes excuses not to be around you because she doesn't want to. She might be cheating on you but you never know until you see it with your own eyes. Best to let go and carry on with your life.

[chuff]

Rule number 183 of dating. When she backs off you back off. As she backed off you went further and further towards her. Learn from it and don't let the next one fool you.

[liz28]

Your instincts were right when you thought something was fishy but maybe you didn't want to face it. It is easy to ignore things but hard to face to face the facts.

Your better off without her because it her lost.

[AnaisDeBeauvoir]

Forgive me, but I'm a little bit confused as to what your question is exactly. She told you what her deal is. She wants to break up. You can sit and speculate for hours and days and weeks about the reasons, but you'll never really know. Trust me, I have walked down that road many a time and honey, it ain't worth it. Time will pass and you will care less and less till finally you don't care at all. Try to enjoy yourself in the meantime and try not to think about it obssessively because I can guarantee she's having a blast NOT thinking about you.

[Triysle]

I would suggest you look at yourself here, T-Dawg. Why did her actions bother you so much after only a few months into a relationship?

It looks to me like you allowed your interests and your own life to be lost in your partner's. You perceive it as being a good guy, but it is really just an indication of your own insecurity and lack of self-awareness. Many of us go through this at some point in our lives; ultimately, you have to discover what you like about yourself and what you want for your life.

You do sound a bit young, and that's fine. I will suggest that you learn a bit more about yourself before you try adding someone else into your life.

~ Tee

[talaniman]

Her deal is she has changed her mind and doesn't want you any more. When it smells fishy, it usually is.

[slapshot_oi]

Two months seems to be the magic number for most women to check-out of a relationship they're not into.

But yeah, like everyone mentioned, this is the case.