[lovelyrenae]

Hello,

I sick and tired of people picking on me about my hair and what I'm wearing or just for fun cause I never stick up for myself.
I'm a type of person who is gentle and don't sware or get pissed off easily. I'm very sensitive which I find embarrassing in a way. When I'm nervous I mumble or talk very quietly. And I am not violent in mind or heart, which I find strange because I am just as big and powerful, I'm not one of those scrawny kids, for example NERD.

The reason I'm writing this down is because I WANT TO CHANGE I want to be a complete opposite in everyway, I want to be violent (if I get into a fight) I don't want to be sensitive and I want to be able to yell and shout and get pissed off VERY easily and scare them off.

PLEASE HELP ME
GIVE ME USEFUL IDEAS, DON'T TELL ME NOT TO CHANGE MYSELF WHEN IT WAS MY DESIRE TO DO SO! :cool:

What would toughen me up?
Hitting myself?
Saying thing that would make me angry?
You're the expert TELL ME!

Thanks again to everyone who answered my question :):)

[magpie0045]

I am very loud at school. I have tons of friends. I'm not shy. I'm not afraid of a challenge. I don't always stand up for myself, but I do speak my mind. Being violent is not something that's really necessay I don't think. I don't know what your hair is like to help you or how you dress. But being shy is your way of getting comfortable. If you want people to know you as the girl who was loud, friendly,awesome, and pretty then you have to bust out of your shell. Branch out of your comfort zone. And when people pick on you take it in a positive way and show them up. That doesn't mean necessarily beating their face in. Just show them that they were wrong and not to underestimate you.

[Clough]

Hi, lovelyrenae!

Why do you think that changing the way that you are is going to help you, please?

Thanks!

[Fr_Chuck]

First size does not mean attitude, and sorry being small does not mean nerd, and to be honest being a smart hard working school person, who is on the honor roll, who is are in the debate club and more, in fact those are the ones who latter in college get all the best girls since they are the ones who will be getting the 100,000 dollar a year engineering jobs and more.
A simple trip to any of the major engineering schools shows that easily.

So you have to start saying NO, NO and no, just tell them no, stop and stand up for yourself.

? Hitting yourself,

[thehuntleybunch]

No don't hit yourself you need the I don't care attitude.. I hate when girls say they won't to change just because of some little punks.. I am 21 and are a daddy of 4 kids... I would say get a punching bag and practice... I used to be the same way and then I just told myself I am not dealing with it and everybody tripped. Its all about the shyness it hard to git rid off it I did so I know you can.. and don't walk through school with your head down.. got to a hair stillest and pick something like you would see on a model... please ask me more if you won't I am better with asking questions..
Your friend
Josh Huntley

[Unknown008]

I'd like to say that you seem to be fine. I can't guess your haircut style nor what you wear, but you have the right to wear what you want. What you like. If they don't like it, let them be. It's only this shy issue which should intrigue you. As you said, you are pretty big and powerful and you should not be shy to the point where you can't speak clearly when you are nervous. Practice speaking clearly, for example reading aloud in your room if you are disturbing no one.

Don't try to scare people off :eek: You will also scare the ones that thought good of you! There must be at least one person who likes you as you are in the school, yes? And you do have friends. Friends are important, for support and yourself development. Try to have as many friends as you can, who of course you judge as 'good', don't have bad relationships, they're more likely use you instead of actually pull you up.

And this to the previous posts, I think you'll be fine.

[WATT]

I can see your problem clear in your question. You have low self esteem and you think everyone is better than you.

That's what you have to stop doing. Remember no one ever NO ONE is better than yourself. Stop putting yourself last! Be more adventures.

Quick tempering a swearing won't help you in any way.

Last but not least THINK FOR YOURSELF, DON'T LET ANYONE THINK FOR YOU! Don't let yourself believe other people being bossed around or ordered to do whatever.

Also the thing that will hurt most isn't the punch that you'll receive today but the regret to say NO that you'll have in 30 years.

[lovelyrenae]

Thanks for your help!

[TJ17]

You want to change yourself?. it's not possible, because you will always be who you are inside, and you even said it yourself, "i am not violent in mind or heart".
But what you can do is "grow some balls", stand up for yourself, bullies will always pick on the person they feel wont fight back, won't say anything in defense of themselves.
And if there picking on you then your probably doing exactly what I just described.
Hitting yourself won't make you tougher, it will only give you bruises, and saying things to make you angry well you weren't exposed to gamma radiation so I really don't think that will help. Haha

Just stand up for yourself, and yeah you might get into a fight and you might get your butt kicked but at least they will know that you will stand up to them from now on.

[chancelord]

First of all let me tell, that you don't really need to change, but if it pleases you I think I can give you some advice.
-you don't want to be too shy
-grab any single challenge you find
-u don't need to talk loud or scream, you just need to talk more and socialize more.
-u can always ignore
-try telling them to not do it
-u don't need to get into a fight
-get into as much sports or school activities as you can
You must have in mind that by being violent you can lose the friends you already have, your true friends. And you might even bring someone who loves you into a condition in which that person feels himself further away from you. Do as Unknown008 said, you don't want to lose those who like you. Well, good luck, and try to make the right choice.

[miss 226]

Trying to change yourself won't help at all.

Always stay true to yourself. And don't change yourself because your being picked on, If anything people will pick on you more because the will know its an act.

And its OK to defend yourself, but not by yelling or fighting (unless they hit you first... may not be the best way but that's how I was raised) but always try to avoid fights. People like yelling and fighting and being bullys only do it because they don't know any other way to get by.

Trust me in the long run, you'll be ahead of the race, and you'll be happy you held your tongue.

You get better with sugar then viniger.

=] good luck!