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    angelhearts Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    May 28, 2009, 12:54 PM
    Did he ever loved me?
    Hello friends, before I ask you my question let me tell you that I am from india and in our culture we have only arrange marriages i.e consent of family is a must.
    I met this guy 18 months back and it clicked then and there. We started dating. Like all relationships we had our ups and downs but he always told that I'm the best thing happened to his life and I can feel this in his behavior towards me. But in march his family chose a girl for him. He protested to the level where his father asked him to leave the house or marry that girl. So we mutually decided to give up and remain friends. Also we work in the same office. Now two months later we are only friends I mean there is nothing physical between us. But we still hang out together and see each other daily in office. He talks to his finance daily and sms her. This sometimes leave me wondering did he ever loved me.
    I don't want him back and I totally respect his relation with that girl. But I'm only human and feels bad for myself at times. So please help me and tell me did he ever loved me and if yes does feelings go away for guys like in a month or so.:(
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    May 28, 2009, 01:15 PM

    The only help for your situation is to discontinue contact.

    You are in a painful situation where feelings were involved, you need time to heal from that situation. Limit contact with him immediately and take the time to heal over this situation.
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    I wish Posts: 5,296, Reputation: 2030
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    May 28, 2009, 01:28 PM

    Well he has to move on with his life eventually. You can't expect him to put his life on hold and be single forever, because he loves you, but can't be with you.

    I'm sure he did love you at some point, but he also moved on.

    It sounds like you haven't moved on, or else you wouldn't be concerned with him. Quit worrying about what he's doing with his lovelife, it's time to worry about yourself.
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    Jun 5, 2009, 07:44 AM

    Your an Indian female... u have to be smart to analize what has happened with u!
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    Jun 5, 2009, 09:22 PM

    His feelings probably didn't change, but he gave in to the traditions of his culture, which unfortunately for you both, made a future together impossible. You must move on for yourself, and you will in time.

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