[hollycessford]

I have recenly been going through a bad time , my boyfriend and I were together a year and a half and he used to hit me and play mind games with me, I wasn't allowed to see my friends or speak to boys and my parents found out and got the police involved, they got a restriction again him coming near me, I'm only 15 so I don't have a choice, I really miss him after everythinghe put me through , when my friends mention his name I break down crying , and I have a new boyfriend but it doesn't feel right everything I do minds me off my x-boyfriend, and I just feel like crying every time he comes into my head, I found out a few weeks ago that he was sleeping with someone , it broke my heart I keep telling myself that he never but I know deep down he did, I just don't know why I still love him and miss him after everything he put me through. :'(

[Triysle]

You aren't missing him because of how great he was, you're missing him because of how much you dislike yourself and your own life. To you, this boy (as terrible as he was to you) was a source of power in your life; with him, you never had to think, or make decisions, or do anything for yourself. Now that you have lost that, your own insecurities are getting in the way of your ability to enjoy your own life.

It is very unhealthy to feel this way about someone. I won't waste my time and tell you how bad he was, because it's not going to get through to you. What I want you to do is focus on yourself and realize how special you are on your own. Don't allow other people to define your life for you; you are stronger than you give yourself credit for.

Essentially, you just have to have confidence in yourself.

~ Tee

[ahsan32]

Well Frankly speaking I don't know about the history between the two of u, but love is a strange feeling, sometimes you love the one who hates you the most. That's y love is associated with Heart and not the brain, Just try to forget him and get on with the life, Life is beautiful, don't waste the precious days of your life on someone who does not love u. Enjoy life, you have a long and pleasant future ahead of u. You are just 15. Best of luck and enjoy life.

Take Care.


Ahsan

[Romefalls19]

Love is a crazy thing, we think we love, a lot, but reality is, you are just lonely right now and have feelings of being insecure and being told what to do because of how he treated you. You should really seek out some counseling, also I wouldn't consider dating anyone else for awhile, you're far to fragile to be considering dating again.

[liz28]

It is very important to take good care of yourself and make sure you have needed support to help you through this challenge.

Right now you have reprogram your thinking because this guy lower yourself worth and esteem. You need to start viewing yourself in a more accurate light. Spending time with loved ones will also help you fill your social calendar. Don't hesitate to see a counselor if you are having difficulty managing or processing your emotions about your past relationship with this guy.

I am happy you got out before it was too late because many people don't and end up getting killed by their abusers. You was the victim here and it isn't uncommon to feel the way you do or going through the emotions your feeling now. However, seeing a counselor would be best and going to a support groups for abused teens will help a lot.

Breaking free isn't easy since your still attach to him mentally. The best thing for you to do is stay away from him and get help for yourself. I found a hotline for you to call and maybe they can help you find counseling and a support group.

LoveIsRespect.org National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline
1.866.331.9474