[Hada1]

He was my ex big boss, he is single and 40. Since the moment he saw me at work he started looking at me always, like it was love at first sigh and I felt the same way. We had that "special connection". By the time the attraction became very strong between us and I quit, as I'm married. I wrote to him and I told him my feelings about him and that since I meet him my feelings about my husband changed and I wanted to get divorced, as I started feeling that my married cycle started ending since last year. He didn't answer my e-mail.
We continued our "relationship" by e-mail and I continued with my life, I started a business and he is very proud of my achievement. One day, I saw him in a picture with the girl he is dating, but I think he is not in love with her. He just don't look happy. He also told me that he saw me on a picture -I was with my husband-. After some time I ask him that I wanted to have a conversation and he didn't answer. Two weeks ago, I decided to write an e-mail saying goodbye to him and he didn't answer. I think he has feelings for me and I don't know why is he acting that way.

Time has passed and I can't get him out of my head, I see his name everywhere I go and love songs come on the radio suddenly, like sings. Is very confusing. I really appreciate a very good advise. THANK YOU!

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Thank you I really appreciate your answer.

[Gemini54]

Get him out of your head, grow up and get on with your life.

What you are living is a fantasy. You are married - focus on either improving or ending that relationship with your husband and stop living in a dream.

Your life is not a Bollywood movie.

[talaniman]

Once you get a divorce, you can chase any one you want... thats available.

I think he has feelings for me and I don't know why is he acting that way.

Because your not happy in your life, doesn't mean he isn't happy in his. Take the hint.

[superk]

....After some time I ask him that I wanted to have a conversation and he didn't answer. Two weeks ago, I decided to write an e-mail saying goodbye to him and he didn't answer. I think he has feelings for me and I don't know why is he acting that way.

You're married, you tried reaching out twice but no to avail. You're in a lost-lost situation.

Your life is not a Bollywood movie.

Neither Hollywood

[Fr_Chuck]

Get counseling and work on the real relationship

[none12345]

He is ignoring you because he knows that this relationship shouldn't be happening. You are married and he doesn't want to be the one to ruin a marriage and it presents lots of complications. He is also not contacting you because that could be a way for him to forget about you completely and move on with his life and likewise you should do the same.

I have never been married before so I don't know if this is accurate or not but I feel that since you have been with your husband for a while, things have started to die down. Im not sure if you are in love with this guy or you are looking for something new and exciting in your life.

Like what gemini said, try to improve your relationship with your husband. You have made a vow to stick by him for the good and the bad, so keep that vow and don't give up too easily. Sometimes we don't know what we have till its all gone.

[Homegirl 50]

Work on your marriage and stop fantasizing. This man does not want to be with you. He made no move toward you even when you opened the door for him.
You need to either work on your marriage or get out of it, but I don't think you stand a chance with this man.
It's time to leave la-la land and come back into the real adult world.

[Survivor07]

He is ignoring you because he knows that this relationship shouldnt be happening. You are married and he doesnt want to be the one to ruin a marriage and it presents lots of complications. He is also not contacting you because that could be a way for him to forget about you completely and move on with his life and likewise you should do the same.

I have never been married before so i dont know if this is accurate or not but i feel that since you have been with your husband for a while, things have started to die down. Im not sure if you are in love with this guy or you are looking for something new and exciting in your life.

Like what gemini said, try to improve your relationship with your husband. You have made a vow to stick by him for the good and the bad, so keep that vow and dont give up too easily. Sometimes we dont know what we have till its all gone.

Wow, Noney, great post. I couldn't rep you, but I agree with all said.

He absolutely is ignoring her because she is NOT available. He probably figures if he got together with her, she'd cheat on him, too, and YES she is cheating. So, he's moved on with someone who is available. You can bet he's not thinking of her the way she is him. That's because he is most likely happy with his life and... she is NOT. She needs to realize that this guy won't make her happy.

OP, get counseling for your marriage or get a divorce... and then a boyfriend, after much, much time has past and healing has taken place.

[Hada1]

Get him out of your head, grow up and get on with your life.

What you are living is a fantasy. You are married - focus on either improving or ending that relationship with your husband and stop living in a dream.

Your life is not a Bollywood movie.

WOW!! Is destiny playing with me? The man I'm in love with is Gemini. I can you believe this? Is this something? I'm serious!
You are rigth and I know all that you said. But let me tell you something, in order to live life you have to allow yourself to "dream" So if there weren't dreamers in this world who is going to write movies for Hollywood? Thank you for your answer.

[Hada1]

Once you get a divorce, you can chase any one you want.............thats available.

Because your not happy in your life, doesn't mean he isn't happy in his. Take the hint.

I'm happy with my life, I didn't meant that this man is not happy, but when you love someone you can see and feel if the person is happy or not. I just to see him every day and I know him very well.
I agree with you regarding to get my divorce, but to chase a man NO WAY! I'm beautiful and smart enougth to make man chase me and by the way, he was the one who chased me for almost a year, I just followed my hearth. I was true to myself. Is all that matters to me. If he is not happy I feel for him because I want him to be happy, with me or without me. Thank you for your answer.

[Hada1]

He is ignoring you because he knows that this relationship shouldnt be happening. You are married and he doesnt want to be the one to ruin a marriage and it presents lots of complications. He is also not contacting you because that could be a way for him to forget about you completely and move on with his life and likewise you should do the same.

I have never been married before so i dont know if this is accurate or not but i feel that since you have been with your husband for a while, things have started to die down. Im not sure if you are in love with this guy or you are looking for something new and exciting in your life.

Like what gemini said, try to improve your relationship with your husband. You have made a vow to stick by him for the good and the bad, so keep that vow and dont give up too easily. Sometimes we dont know what we have till its all gone.

I agree with you because you were sweet and honest with your answer. I know my husband since 25 years I been in very good married, we don't have kids and I been the best wife I can be. I think relationships have their own life cycle and after so many years together , we became very best friends, but there is not love and passion. I feel love for him and respect for all this years, didn't have an "affair" before until I experienced with this guy this "affair of the hearth" So I guess nothing in this life is forever.
I think if you find the man rigth for you, you are going to be a great wife. Good luck to you! Thaks for your answer.

[Hada1]

Wow, Noney, great post. I couldn't rep you, but I agree with all said.

He absolutely is ignoring her because she is NOT available. He probably figures if he got together with her, she'd cheat on him, too, and YES she is cheating. So, he's moved on with someone who is available. You can bet he's not thinking of her the way she is him. That's because he is most likely happy with his life and....she is NOT. She needs to realize that this guy won't make her happy.

OP, get counseling for your marriage or get a divorce....and then a boyfriend, after much, much time has past and healing has taken place.

This guy knows that I had eyes only for my husband until I meet him.He chased me for almost a year and he knows that I'm a very good woman, because I worked for him and I got a very respectful position in the company. He is the kind of man who is powerful and has a good position in the society and is single. I think I moved his world and he can't accept that he developed feelings for me. For what I know he is afraid to lose his freedom. To get in love it wasn't in his plan. I hope one day he will find someone that cares and love him as much as I do. Thanks for your answer.