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jiniliya · Apr 9, 2009, 10:23 PM

jiniliya
As you asked I answered your question now please start the replays of my quaries & if u have any problem related to me please ask me.

Dare81 · Apr 10, 2009, 03:04 AM

This school of your has got to have a principal or a head master right.Go talk to him.If that does not make it stop, go talk to the parents of the guy who started all this.If that does not work ignore them.Who needs enemies when you have friends like these

jiniliya · Apr 10, 2009, 06:38 AM

jiniliya
They still behave like they care for me & they call me at my sell though I didn't take their calls I put my sell on silent to ignore them they send me massage on my sell phone because of this my mom thinks they are still my good friends & she is not ready to believe me. This students have very good relationship with teachers on admission day they were in principle's cabin for more then three hours on that day every one got admission who later in college & I was there from 6 am. But I didn't get the admission they told me to go & come tomorrow for admission but as I reached home those people called me at home & told me that their admission is done. This shows their relationship with teachers. They already told principle about this thing now I didn't see any hope that they will listen to me. I whole day cry I not able to study like this they come on my bench and say something weired & I can't say anything. I feel if I say anything they will take me to court now this is remaining in my life. I am depressed because this is not ending.

starbuck8 · Apr 10, 2009, 07:06 AM

Once again I am confused. I understand this is likely because of the language barrier. How or why could they take you to court?

talaniman · Apr 10, 2009, 08:00 AM

You can live in fear, and let them rule your thoughts, and actions, or you can protect yourself by ignoring them, and dealing with their lies, with the truth.

Your giving them more power than they deserve, or is called for. Court? Come on, what do they have that a court would be interested in?

Because of this my mom thinks they are still my good friends & she is not ready to believe me.

Whether she is ready or not, you must tell her the truth. Your handling this badly, and have made the whole school look like they are against you.

jiniliya · Apr 10, 2009, 08:55 AM

Jinilya
Right now I am avoiding them but one girl from that group comes daily on my bench try irritate me say something weired. This is their daily strategy & I can't say anything to them because I afraid. The teacher who was praising me came to our class to teach I smiled at her but ignored me and went to the bench where this group was siting & they all laughed at me. This is why I didn't complaint because they have already proved that I am wrong.

talaniman · Apr 10, 2009, 10:04 AM

They have proved nothing! Your fear has allowed you to be a victim of their harassment. Stand up for yourself, but be smart about it.

You must go over their heads to someone of a higher authority, and make their actions know. Your own inaction is what's perpetrating this situation. Your fear is what gives those bullies their power.

jiniliya · May 9, 2009, 12:13 AM

jiniliya HI

That friends who were troubling me told this whole things to my building people now they started avoiding me when ever I give a look to any one they turn their face. So I changed the class & college because there was no other way left. In new class some of old friends of that college were there & again they started same thing to me. Yet I have not told every one exactly in which college I took admission. I didn't want to carry all this in that other college I didn't know how far I can hide it that I am in which college. I thought after leaving college & class these things will stop but it does not seems like that.

roxypox · May 9, 2009, 03:21 AM

What on earth are these people saying about you? It must be pretty bad if people act like this!

adam_89 · May 9, 2009, 04:28 AM

Yes, What was said that made this whole thing so unbearable and made people not even stand the look of you?

jiniliya · May 9, 2009, 09:14 AM

jiniliya
That is the thing I didn't know what exactly they are talking about this issue. It must have been something really weared that is why people behave this way with me. I went to new place but still it is not working. It is not ending from their side I didn't know what is the solution for this problem.

talaniman · May 9, 2009, 12:47 PM

You must be in a really small town, for them to find you. You may need some legal assistance, like a cop.

jiniliya · May 10, 2009, 12:24 PM

jiniliya
In this new class there was only one girl from that college & spread this whole thing to every one if there is students only I can avoid them but they involve teachers also & I lost myself confidence so badly that I can't stand in front of any one. In new class people hesitate to sit beside me I do not care about that but this way I can't live my life peace fully. I have yet not told any one about my new college but it is near by my class so they will definitely find it. You said you need legal assistance but how? No one believes me I didn't have any proof & they know this & I am helpless.

solamente · May 10, 2009, 01:44 PM

You are acting as though you have committed a crime and deserve to be punished. You say you have done nothing wrong, so why not act like it? Change your cell number, go to another city or town on the weekends you don't have school, and find a new group of friends farther away.

You should ask your family what these people said to them, so you know what the rumor is. Once you have this information, you should schedule an appointment with your teachers to explain that there are people trying to hurt your character. You may explain this to others whose opinions you value as well, but DO NOT speak to your enemies any longer. Act as if they do not exist; if they come to your home, tell your family to ignore them and call the police to have them removed from your property. If they bother you at your bench, sit elsewhere or change your routine.

Above all, remember that you are the same person you were before this happened. There are millions of people in your country, not everyone knows or will believe such rumors. Find new friends, and let go of those who are useless.

jiniliya · May 23, 2009, 12:26 AM

jiniliya
I tried to convince my parents to ask people what the rumor is but they deny to do that. They say such thing can not happen no one can go up to this extent. Now no body is interested in solving my problem & raises day by day & I am clue less what to do.

giri_passport · May 26, 2009, 03:23 AM

Hi Jiniliya,

What place do you stay in?

Maybe someone needs to talk to that bunch of friends of yours... You are taking all these instances too seriously and hence you seem to be depressed each passing day... Just try to ignore whatever they say

They might say it for a few days but when they see that you are not getting affected by it anymore, they will stop.

jiniliya · Jun 1, 2009, 11:01 AM

jiniliya
I stay in Mumbai I didn't know how to come out of this I look so depressed from face because I became so lonely & scared & they are knowing I am affected by their behaviour so do it more & more.

talaniman · Jun 1, 2009, 12:32 PM

You need someone to help you sort this out. Be it authorities, or a trusted relative, its obvious you can't go through this alone.

jiniliya · Jun 2, 2009, 11:16 AM

jiniliya
I have change that place but people who know us are same & we stay near so very difficult to hide the place where I took admission. In my new class some are from that old college too they keep on asking me where I took admission through others but I lied to them that still I am in same college even in class register I have written my old college name because I am scared that hear also they spread same things to make my life miserable no one is there who can stop them I didn't know what will happen next.

jiniliya · Jun 13, 2009, 10:53 PM

jiniliya
Those people went to my teachers and ask the addresses of my old friends to know why I lived study nine years ago. They must have told them every thing. From these friends one knows about my relatives also they went to them & told every thing what happened. I have not told my relatives that I am doing T.Y.BCOM I felt like if I tell every one they laugh on me. My friends took advantage of this thing & proved us layers I got to know this when one of our relatives came to our house enquiring about me & my father. My father does not stay with us he has taken diksha he stayes in iscon temples we didn't know where is he right now. I changed my phone number but from next day I got some miss calls from different numbers I called on one number that was a PCO number I asked the lady where that PCO it was in same area where I go for classes I bought the sim card from my society that shop keeper was telling me he knows all my details I didn't understand that what he was trying to say now I know he must have given my number to this people.
I was getting sms from HDFC BANK I told them I have no account in bank some one is miss using my number they told we will remove your number from our list but they didn't tell me about the person using my number. This thing is increasing day by day and my mom & sister they are so innocent that they are not ready to believe that any one can go to such extant.
Now I think I have to take some help from a detective agency but I didn't have that much money & my family will not going to allow me to do this & I am also scared that they may mix that detective with them then I will be in much more trouble.
I didn't know how to solve this can you people help me. I stay in MUMBAI instead of detective if one of you can come to help me out then I will be safe. Please help me. Some times I think I do suicide & every thing will end but this will be wrong with my family.
Please tell me what to do?

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