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almera2 · May 22, 2009, 06:20 AM

Hi there,

I have been living with this horrible fear and possible guilt the day I fell pregnant with my twins.
I know this is going to sound funny, but I have kept a calender of my menstruational cycles.
The reason why I am doubting is that I had a boyfriend and we had intercourse on 23 July 2005. My menstruation started on the Monday, 25 July. So, if I'm correct my ovulation period would have been more or less from the 4th of August to the 12th of August.

Me and my boyfriend broke up on the Monday of the 25th of July. I met someone else and of course, things happened and we had intercourse in the week of my ovulation. This was on the 8th or 9th of August. The twins were born on Monday 10 April, exactly 37weeks into my pregnancy

I am however still with this guy that I met and we had a third child who looks like him. The twins look more like me, but I must add the kids all have the same facial features. (Their mouths, lips, eyebrows). You can clearly see it on photo's

I have really been doubting and been living with this and it kills me. What are the chances that the twins are my first boyfriends kids? I am too ashamed to mention anything and wouldn't want to do a paternity test. I am really too ashamed.

Could someone please give me some facts on exactly how ovulation works.

Your assistance will be highly appreciated.

stevetcg · May 22, 2009, 06:28 AM

The chances: unlikely, but not impossible. My ex actually had her period after we had last been together and the child was still proven to be mine.

If you are curious, do a home test. Legally, I don't think it will make a difference if your current BF is their legal father. Most states have a statute of limitations to challenge paternity.

How the kids look is not much indication. First, they are young. They look like everyone. Everyone always comments how both of my kids look so much like me. Except one isn't mine...

JudyKayTee · May 22, 2009, 06:28 AM

Nothing will answer this question positively except a DNA test. The true father should be supporting the children and the DNA test will be part of that request for support.

nikosmom · May 22, 2009, 06:47 AM

I agree that it sounds unlikely but a DNA test is the only way to know for sure.

The thing that works in your favor is that you're not saying that you cheated so you don't really have a "secret". Your current mate should understand. The longer you wait the more difficult it will be to come out about the possibility.

Sit him down and tell him that in order for you to continue to move forward that you want to know for sure.

If by chance he turns out not to be the father, then you have every right to seek support for the bio father.