Get over it!

SunnyDaize22 · May 20, 2009, 11:21 PM

Ok So here's my deal.
I broke up with my boyfriend about 5 months ago.
We broke up because I just thought we weren't right for each other.
We were going to get back together if He could treat me better. (He never treated me terrible it just seemed like we were to opposite at times).

So the plan was to get back together.

About 2 1/2 months ago all these new new girls enter his life. (And of course their all GORGEOUS.) It was then that he pretty much decided that he's going to move on and leave me in the dust.
So I'm suppose to move on now, right? That's the easy thing to say. But I CANNOT do it! I'm an emotional mess all the time and I never thought I would be the girl in this place. The terrible thing is, the physical aspect of our relationship still exists, and we still talk.. when I call him. I can't stop comparing myself to these girls and just feeling sorry for myself. I want my life back.

Someone be blunt and please help? I will be eternally grateful.

ChihuahuaMomma · May 20, 2009, 11:34 PM

Be blunt. You CAN move on. You're not trying to. He's moved on. So can you. You deserve someone that you are compatible with and can relate to.

SunnyDaize22 · May 20, 2009, 11:48 PM

Thanks! For that.
I think he's being so insensitive to this whole situation. It's not who he is. He's usually considerate. But not anymore...
And I find myself getting caught up thinking about this for hours...

ChihuahuaMomma · May 20, 2009, 11:52 PM

You need a new hobby, friend, class, job, something to refocus your mind and energy on something that will BENEFIT YOU.

I wish · May 21, 2009, 06:41 AM

Be blunt: STOP TALKING TO HIM

By talking to him and getting updates about new girls in life, you're just dragging out the recovery. Block him out of her life. No more taking to him. If he calls, don't pick up.

Follow the no contact rules: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...qs-332732.html

It will help with the healing process. But time is the only magic potion.

SunnyDaize22 · May 21, 2009, 09:07 AM

If only that was as easy as it sounds...
It's complete torture. Especially when the girls used to be my friends and now their his.
But here I go.. I could list 50 excuses why I shouldn't talk to him but I can't help but be nice and want this good-for-nothing jerk back.

I wish · May 21, 2009, 01:01 PM

I agree that it is easier said than done, because many of us have gone through the same situation.

Instead of thinking that it's easier said that done, think of it this way...

Do you rather:

1) Continue to torture yourself by talking to him and getting updates... and then eventually realizing that you're going to have to block him out of your life anyway, and then finally start the healing process...

2) Or would you rather listen to us and skip the torturing part and start the healing process right away?

Romefalls19 · May 22, 2009, 10:53 AM

Blunt. Okay, you need to stop whining about a guy you broke up with. A little immature pact between you two, it didn't work out. He didn't treat you as you wanted, therefore you let him go. Now it's it time to actually let go, move on. Stop talking to him, you need to get a hobby, something outside of comparing yourself to someone else. There will always be someone better than you, it's the way of the world, it makes you strive for better. If there is something you personally do not like about yourself, then make efforts to change it. What he doesn't give you, someone else will. If you keep staring at a closed door, you ignore the ones that open up.

There I was blunt, now let's see if I get slammed

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