My boyfriend or hers?

tiger303 · May 20, 2009, 09:09 PM

OK, I have just got my first boyfriend and we have been going out for two months. Now my best friend has gone for him and eveyday he likes her more, just because he talks to her!:mad: and she has gotten some texts saying " oh i could hook u up with him" ! And I have no idea of what he thniks! And in class, I have a calculator that you can type on,they type stuff to each other. Then I ask what they said and she "cant tell me"!! They giggle and talk and they look back at me. I have told my friend that it bugs me that she is flerting with him but she keeps on doing it1 what should I do??

Triysle · May 20, 2009, 09:19 PM

Well, the first relationship is always a great learning experience.

Here's what you do, if you want to handle this maturely. Figure out what you want from this guy, forget about your "friend" for now. Once you do that, confront this guy straight up, tell him what you want, and if he can't or won't give it to you, then forget about him and move on.

It sucks right now, because you probably aren't sure what you want or what you think you deserve. Here's the deal - you are being used by this guy, who thinks he's cool or whatever else. He's stringing you along, while also showing interest in your friend. If you're OK with that, then that's your business. You should have a bit more self-respect, though, and realize that you deserve someone who cares about you the same way you care about them.

Be straight up, let him know you're not OK with it, let your "friend" know that she needs to back off, and if they can't do that, then forget both of them. You don't need anyone but yourself to be happy; friends and whatever else are just a bonus.

~ Tee

Romefalls19 · May 21, 2009, 05:24 AM

Find a new boyfriend and a better group of friends. Don't let someone walk all over you, he's dating you and flirting with her, openly. WALK AWAY from both of them, you're better than that. This guy sounds like a player, do you want to be played? Didn't think so

liz28 · May 21, 2009, 05:48 AM

Leave them both alone.

Your best friend isn't a friend at all especially if she is going after your boyfriend. She is a snake.

Your boyfriend has no respect for you if he is going after your friend and texting calling her behind your back.

Leave the snakes alone and find a new friend and boyfriend. They deserve each other.

I wish · May 21, 2009, 06:27 AM

Your question should have been:

"My friends or not?"

The answer?. NOT! Neither of them respect. Find new friends and a new boyfriend. You deserve better than this.

talaniman · May 21, 2009, 08:18 AM

People only treat you as bad as you let them, so maybe its time for a better boyfriend, and a real friend.

roxypox · May 21, 2009, 08:50 AM

Like tal said; people do really threat you as bad as you let them.

They are both being ridiculous and disrespectful.

Your Best friend is NOT a friend at all. You should let them both be and walk away and find new friends... or spend more time with the friends you have that are respectful towards you.

You deserve better!
Best of Luck,
Roxy

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