[Triysle]

Hi folks. I recently learned of some troubling news from my folks about some missing property. Here's the story.

Last Christmas, my ex and I stayed at my parent's home while they went to another house for the holiday. My mom gave us a key to the security box in case of an emergency. I recently found out that an expensive bracelet that was in the box is now missing, and the only people that have had access to that box (other than my parents) was me and my ex. Also, my mom remembered that around that time, some money had disappeared from her purse, and her wedding bands from her first marriage had gone missing as well.

It was also around this time that my XBox was stolen right after my ex had left for her house. I have never suspected her before, but all of this is starting to add up, and considering the circumstances I'm not sure what to do.

Should I stay NC? It's been over a year anyway since the property would have been stolen, and there is no legitimate proof that she did it, just circumstantial hearsay. Should I break NC for this, or just let it go? Some of the stuff was priceless... I just don't know what to do.

Advice? Thanks,

~ Tee

[kctiger]

Let it go. Your suspicions are obviously not enough to incriminate her. It sucks and who knows if she did do it, but best just let this go. Karma will take care of whomever did this, no need to derail your healing process on a theory.

[Triysle]

Let it go. Your suspicions are obviously not enough to incriminate her. It sucks and who knows if she did do it, but best just let this go. Karma will take care of whomever did this, no need to derail your healing process on a theory.

Thanks KC, it's just rough because my mom is really upset about losing that jewelry. It can't be replaced, and she's convinced it was her. Assuming it's not just misplaced (which is a real possibility) my ex is the only person who had access to that and could have taken it.

But like you said, there's no point bringing it up. Even if I did contact her, she probably wouldn't respond. And even if she did, it's not like she would just admit to it. It's gone, and I just have to let go and forget about it.

Thanks though.

~ Tee

[nikosmom]

Also Tee, you have to think about it this way: even if you did bother contacting her- do you really think she'd admit it? Not bloody likely.

So you may as well stay on track and continue healing. The fact remains that unless you actually saw her with the jewelry or other items, it's only suspicions. No way of proving it.

[liz28]

Don't contact her just leave it alone. From what you wrote do I think she took the things yes but will she ever admit to the crime, no.

Like you said you have no proof even though it sounds fishy and she's the perfect suspect but would need some kind of evidence to sue her in court.

Next time be careful who you trust especially around your valuables.

Sorry this happen but it happens to the best of us. One of so called friends(since childhood) steal $504 from me one time. I know she took it because she was the only one at my house at the time then her conscience kicked in because a few months later she called to apologize. Too late!

[I wish]

Shouldn't you be calling the cops if you have property stolen? Let the cops find out who stole your property/money.

Calling her up and accusing her of stealing isn't going to get you anywhere.