[leong82]

I really need help with you gals out there. I am deeply in love with this girl for 5 years now but I never brave enough to tell her cause she has a boyfriend. She broke up last December and I really wanted to open my heart to her because after waiting for 5 years, I finally have a chance cause she is single. The problem is that I am confused whether she is loves me or just treats me like a friend.

We go out often with friends and sometimes alone. In a week we probably go out maybe 2 to 3 times. Just recently we went to the movies together alone. She know what I like to eat and do. She even orders the food I like to eat when I am with her. She does not smoke but would purposely accompany because I hate to smoke alone. I gave her flowers and cherries on her birthday but did not write who is the sender. She message me on the phone saying thank you. She later told me I was the first person on her mind. When we party she would often look at me as though to see if I am looking at her.

But the thing is, I also feel that I might just be her good friend. On weekends, she never messages me or call me. I am the one that is initiating it. Most of the time I am the one that ask her out. I know that is what a guy should do but if she loves me, she would ask me out too right? I have to admit she does ask me out for dinner sometimes. She knows that I like her cause our friends always tease us. When she is tired or stressed, I would really like to accompany her to make her feel better but she rather go home. I understand that but if she does have feelings for me, wouldn’t she want to release her stress with me?

I really do not want to lose her as a friend but at the same time, I really want to be her special one. Do you think she treats me more than a friend or likes me? What should I do to find out? I appreciate any help out there because this feeling is unbearable. Thanks

[jjwoodhull]

If you want to be her boyfriend then you need to make the move. Tell her that you have feelings for her and you would like to take her on a proper date. 5 years is a long time to have these feelings, so I would think that they are real.

She might reject you, but if you do not make the move now you may lose your opportunity forever.

[talaniman]

I think the only thing you can do is resolve your issue by talking to her and be prepared for rejection, AND THE FRIENDSHIP CHANGING. It's a risk you have to take.

[ZoeMarie]

I agree with everyone else. If you don't say something you'll regret it!

[infodiva]

Just be direct and tell her how you feel and ask her how she feels about you. No point "beating around the bush". It will waste valuable time. If you both have the same feelings for each other then the quicker you both can build a life together and enjoy a future together. Good Luck.