[Stinker10]

What can I do? I'm so crazy about a woman. We've fancied each other for a couple of years. About a year ago we started seeing each other for drink dates - maybe an hour or so every week or two and I see her every three weeks or so through her job. We have kissed passionately but nothing more. I felt it was so special it could wait - we are both in breaking down relationships. We have spoken about being together and told each other we love each other. Then suddenly she told me she couldn't leave her chap at this moment of time and maybe in the future we could get together, she's doesn't know when. She won't reply to my texts. She says she still gets butterflies when she sees me, but won't meet up for a talk to explain what's wrong. Any tips? It's doing my head in.

[snow124]

we are both in breaking down relationships.

Perhaps THAT'S the problem? She realizes what the two if you are doing is wrong?

[I wish]

She couldn't leave her chap?

What are you doing? Back off... she's taken and cheating on her boyfriend. If she was THAT interested in you, she would have broken up by now. If she hasn't, then she's not as interested in you as you think.

You're in a relationship too? What are YOU doing? Stop cheating. If you're breaking down, then break up, why are you still dragging your current relationship out?

Only after you break up with your girlfriend, and she breaks up with her boyfriend... recover... then maybe you can consider a relationship with her.

[superk]

I couldn't add anything more. I agree with both posts.

You are just using each other as a port then.

She and her beau might doing great now.

[liz28]

She is taken end of story.

You and her done crossed the lines with one another. I just feel sorry for her boyfriend because he is in the dark about his girlfriend cheated ways.

She was using you for attention and I guess she realize what she was doing was wrong.

Move on by finding someone who is single.

[talaniman]

She got tired of cheating, and you should be tired of sharing.

Leave her alone is my tip, and get a real life that doesn't include her in it. When things cross the line of good behavior, its time to stop.

Your problem is you cannot accept, you are not her choice any longer.

Leave her alone, you cheater.

[88sunflower]

Yep everyone is right, move on.

She isn't having contact with you because she made her choice. Maybe if she see's you she will go weak and doesn't want that. Respect her wishes and leave her alone. If there is something there and her choice doesn't work out she will be back. Until then worry about your own relationship and stop wanting someone who is taken.

[Stinker10]

The difference between you guys and me is that you are all thinking with your heads - my heart is doing the talking for me. When you feel passion, common sense goes by the wayside. I guess to the observer what you're saying makes sense, but it is far easier said than done. My mind is all a whirl at the moment and I just don't know what to do.
Thanks for thinking of me with your wise comments anyhow.

[ajGambino]

The difference between you guys and me is that you are all thinking with your heads - my heart is doing the talking for me.

So you're heart is telling you to cheat?

Let me tell you what your head can do for you:

1. Rational decisions.
2. Common sense.
3. Avoiding heartache.
4. Think about what you're doing to your partner when you're cheating.
5. What's right and what's wrong.
6. Knowing how to be truly happy.

If you thought with your HEAD and not your HEART, you would come to realize that cheating in your relationship is wrong. Even if it is with someone that you have a strong connection with. Your HEAD would have told you to sort things out with your partner instead of listening to your HEART, which hurt you by hooking up with this other person.


You could have avoided this whole thing by using your HEAD. Do the right thing and quit her for good. If you have problems in your relationship, talk to your partner and sort it out. It's never good to run away from it. You might find something that's better, but finding something while you're already in a relationship will always be temporary. Both of you were in a relationship already, it could have been either of you to end it sooner or later.

[talaniman]

Originally Posted by Stinker10
The difference between you guys and me is that you are all thinking with your heads - my heart is doing the talking for me.

We all know its easier said, than done, but that shouldn't stop you from using your head.

We have all been there, done that.

[none12345]

Sounds like you are a little too attached too her and desperate to have any woman in your life. She is indicating to you indirectly that she doesn't want you in her life for now by not replying your texts so don't bother her.