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adrianachago · May 11, 2009, 06:38 PM

Stressed my mother in law is crazy.. she wants my husband to give her for the rent and does not want to work! Yet his brother always complains and he has given him a lot of stuff. He gave him two cars and he is still complaining that he should not pay anything for me.

Who the hell are they?
We already talked but I'm just sad we can't get along. Well I prefer to loose them than loose my husband to please them or make my life miserable.

Krazi · May 11, 2009, 06:47 PM

Is this just a rant or is there a question?

liz28 · May 11, 2009, 07:08 PM

If your husband doesn't want to pay rent then the two of you should find another place to live. Case closed!

adrianachago · May 11, 2009, 07:30 PM

Well no we do not live with them.. they just used to my husband paying half of everything when he lived with themmm so she wants to feel that support and they are jealous of me..

I was just saying his brother gets mad when he gets stuff for me but when he gives him stuff he does not seem to mind. Its pretty ridiculous that the lady does not want to work at all just because she doesn't find the perfect job! Like hello I worked for a year cleaning crap from people's bathroom. Its not a fun job but hey everyone needs to work.

Fr_Chuck · May 11, 2009, 07:34 PM

This is issues normally that you solve or see while dating, before you marry, Has he always giave them money or is their something new.

liz28 · May 11, 2009, 07:44 PM

Why does your MIL wants your husband to pay rent if he doesn't live there? Maybe, it is time for him to put his foot down and stand up to her. Maybe this would stop her madness.

adrianachago · May 11, 2009, 08:22 PM

Welll you he used to give them money.. of course he had to he lived there. And he used to buy her furniture. Since we married he never sat with me and talked with me about that. I did not really care at first but then again I did because I was working and he told me "you pay for all your stuff". I wanted to work . So of course as a wife I know that neeeds to be contribution. However I told him the day he asks me for rent to give to his mom I'm leaving my job. Of course I'm not but its just that he gets stressed when we talk about money.

She's like a control freak . But I put her in her place even if it means not talking to her again. He was too scared to do it. So I told her to get ajob..
I am sad because I grew attached to them. I am not a cruel wife to say well because parants are parents but they can't expect things when they do not want to help themselves.

Idk... im just trying to live by but it bothers me a lot... Idk Why... Its just that for instnace if we were to go to groceries he will say "juice is a luxury!" but he would give luxury to his mother until I said "No"

ONce he paid the entrance for all his brothers to six flags, send his sister money for college , and used to support his moms pets. And give his little brother money and buy him stuff.
And paid his bro insurance for three months! Until I said he better pay you back.. he only paid him one month back and I have been paying mine since we married.

So I'm like, why am I looked down as an individual that I have to pay this and that and they get stuff for free from welfare and my husband without wanting to work. She just wants everything easy. IF she has svaings she will stop working and live by that and not spend money even if she has it. She makes it seem like she is so poor. But in reality she lives bettter than us.
She lives in a good area and gets to do what she wants because she does not work while I have to work full time because my husband lost his job

She wanted my husband to buy her some stupid couch. Im lke hello that s not even necessary. Sh was too lazy to clean her own couch...

Its just ridiculous

adrianachago · May 11, 2009, 09:06 PM

WELL Actually cHUCK HE TOLD ME THAT I did not have to work before we got married. I guessed he felt like he was not going to be able to help his family... so he staright out told me to get a job which I wanted and had but left it because HIS mother said I was not a good wife. SO I said fine lets see that way... I knew he wanted me to work. So after I did not work for a month he told me to go back to work.

I love working but its just the way he chose them before me. I see the reality.
I know people need to work and that is why I do it but then why take advantage of it.. you know? Im like really simple. I never ask for anything for him to have said he could not support me completely...

He never told me anythign. That is why it created problems because he did not want me to know. He said it was none of my business.