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kctiger · May 11, 2009, 10:53 AM

I do better at masturbating for a girl rather than for myself.

kp2171 · May 11, 2009, 10:54 AM

self help with a girl nibbling on your ears and neck is good stuff.

sure, id rather have her more engaged and in the moment, and its never been the prime activity in any relationship, but I don't have a problem "problem solving" if she doesn't have a problem distracting me.

I think it comes from the fact I think its sexy when a girl self stims during sex. Its one of the most useful things I've seen a woman do to drive herself over the top, and I've never thought it wrong or strange or out of place.

think its sexy as sin if a girl feels herself up when you are going down on her or reaches down to self stim while inside her. So... self help with peripheral stim from a girl can be intense.

Alty · May 11, 2009, 10:54 AM

Originally Posted by Romefalls19

She was molested as a child and then again as a teen, as a teen it was her own cousin, so I can understand her hesitations. but she refuses to go to therapy and talk about it, which is what I think would be the best solution. Her anti-depressants, she's not taking anymore. Ahhh I'm at a loss

OMG Rome, you are dating me!

Sweetie, if she ever wants someone to talk to about this, I've been there, done that, wrote the book, you name it. Sometimes it helps to talk to someone you don't know and don't have to face.

Justwantfair · May 11, 2009, 10:56 AM

Originally Posted by kp2171

self help with a girl nibbling on your ears and neck is good stuff.

Same for women, I love playing solo once in awhile, with the encouragement.

Just changes, you need after too many years...

You come up and try anything and everything...

Where do you think oil wrestling was invented... :D

mudweiser · May 11, 2009, 10:56 AM

Originally Posted by kp2171

self help with a girl nibbling on your ears and neck is good stuff.

sure, id rather have her more engaged and in the moment, and its never been the prime activity in any relationship, but i dont have a problem "problem solving" if she doesnt have a problem distracting me.

i think it comes from the fact i think its sexy when a girl self stims during sex. its one of the most useful things ive seen a woman do to drive herself over the top, and ive never thought it wrong or strange or out of place.

think its sexy as sin if a girl feels herself up when you are going down on her or reaches down to self stim while inside her. so... self help with peripheral stim from a girl can be intense.

If I could give you 100 greenies this would be the time.

Sarah

Alty · May 11, 2009, 10:58 AM

Originally Posted by kp2171

self help with a girl nibbling on your ears and neck is good stuff.

sure, id rather have her more engaged and in the moment, and its never been the prime activity in any relationship, but i dont have a problem "problem solving" if she doesnt have a problem distracting me.

i think it comes from the fact i think its sexy when a girl self stims during sex. its one of the most useful things ive seen a woman do to drive herself over the top, and ive never thought it wrong or strange or out of place.

think its sexy as sin if a girl feels herself up when you are going down on her or reaches down to self stim while inside her. so... self help with peripheral stim from a girl can be intense.

And once again I'm horny because of KP! Ahhhhhh! My God you have a way with words. Seriously, KP, you wouldn't even have to touch me, just talk to me and I'd be over the edge.

Sigh.

kp2171 · May 11, 2009, 10:59 AM

Originally Posted by mudweiser

If I could give you 100 greenies this would be the time.

Biggest smile of the day, so far

Romefalls19 · May 11, 2009, 10:59 AM

I have been trying to get her to go to counseling but she refuses and just clams up when it's brought up. I'm like at my wits end with it, I have no idea what to do about it, I want to help her but she won't let me

Alty · May 11, 2009, 11:01 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

Entirely different situation. The awkwardness of some 6"-12" stick just sitting there being pounded on isn't like a finger in a hole. Just totally different.

Just have to say, 6"-12"? :D

Romefalls19 · May 11, 2009, 11:01 AM

What makes it even worse is that we went out to Cali this past Christmas, and I had to look the person who did this in the fracking face and couldn't say or hit him! That was so hard for me, no one knows about it but her(in her family)

Justwantfair · May 11, 2009, 11:03 AM

Originally Posted by Romefalls19

I have been trying to get her to go to counseling but she refuses and just clams up when it's brought up. I'm like at my wits end with it, I have no idea what to do about it, I want to help her but she won't let me

What advice would you give yourself in your situation?

Romefalls19 · May 11, 2009, 11:05 AM

Honestly I don't know. She needs to talk to someone though and she refuses to. It's so bad that I am at the point where I could very well say "talk or I walk" and it's hard because I really do love her but she clams up and will not talk about it to anyone

kp2171 · May 11, 2009, 11:09 AM

Hmmm... its just true.

Two of my most intense memories sexually didn't involve my having sex, getting an orgasm, or even getting my pants off.

One time was when a lover got herself off, without any cl!toral play and no penetration. She told me what she wanted... mostly neck and breast play with lips... and it was awesome... "suck harder" or "bite lightly" was great to hear. And he ran her hands over her arse, sucked on her finger. When that orgasm hit it was just great to witness.

Other time was just "dry grinding"... first time id gotten her into her bedroom, first time her bare chest was against my skin, and we never made it do the middle of that big, huge bed. When that orgasm hit her it just stopped the world. And then she shook. And shook.

And I completely diluted the moment... because after a little bit I honestly couldn't tell if she was OK. So I ask "are you ok?"... nothing... and again "are you ok?"... and she barely gets out "yes", but she meant to say

"SHUT THE FKCU UP AND LET ME ENJOY THIS GREAT ORGASM, YOU IDIOT!"

Oops...

Don't know why, but those two moments were great... kind of like oral, where you make it all about the other persons pleasure... but one step removed. Maybe even more "selfless"?. not that being somewhat selfish in bed is completely a bad thing.

mudweiser · May 11, 2009, 11:14 AM

Totally off topic but.

Mother in law when your rearrange the words come out to be Woman Hitler.

Giggles.

Sarah

nikosmom · May 11, 2009, 11:22 AM

Dammit- I've been too busy today to hang out. :( :(

And I've got some needs that need 'tending to... :(

Justwantfair · May 11, 2009, 11:28 AM

Originally Posted by Romefalls19

Honestly I don't know. She needs to talk to someone though and she refuses to. It's so bad that I am at the point where I could very well say "talk or I walk" and it's hard because I really do love her but she clams up and will not talk about it to anyone

Maybe knowing how you truly feel would help her face it.

Definitely a hard situation, but it's not one you can fix alone.

We have seen that all too often.

Alty · May 11, 2009, 11:34 AM

"SHUT THE FKCU UP AND LET ME ENJOY THIS GREAT ORGASM, YOU IDIOT!"

If I had room in my sig line this would be going in! :)

kp2171 · May 11, 2009, 11:38 AM

Sarah,

Just saw your post...

YouTube - "Ooh Girl!" - An Honest R&B Song
From
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/lounge...os-339660.html

Cleanup on aisle nine. Sooooo funny.

mudweiser · May 11, 2009, 11:46 AM

Originally Posted by kp2171

sarah,

just saw your post...

YouTube - "Ooh Girl!" - An Honest R&B Song
from
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/lounge...os-339660.html

cleanup on aisle nine. sooooo funny.

LOL

Forgot about that...

I have a few others but not sure if I want to post them ;)

Sarah

kctiger · May 11, 2009, 12:04 PM

Meh... what a boring day!