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    Karyn 1970 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    May 11, 2009, 02:31 AM
    My boyfriend doesn't seem interested in marriage
    We have dated for a year. I am divorced. My boyfriend's wife left him for another man 7 years ago and he only recently starting the divorce prodeedingsand will be officially divorced in about 2 months. Although I find it strange he never bothered worrying about divorcing his wife before now. They do not see each other and a written agreement that says they will not make any financial claims to each other. She is engaged to be married to this other man.

    He says he loves me more than anything and seems very genuine. I have told him that I see no reason to carry on with a relationship if there is no solid commitment. I am nearing 40 and he is 50 and I refuse to waste each other's time. He insists we will get married someday, but has not properly asked me. I wonder why I don't mean enough to him to move it ahead.
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    May 11, 2009, 02:37 AM

    I'm sure you mean a lot to him, and if he assures you that he will have your hand one day, I suggest you keep him to his word. If things are going good for you guys, I wouldn't worry about it.

    Talk to him and make sure everything's OK. Communication is key to knowing everything about your relationship.
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    May 11, 2009, 05:17 AM

    No offense, but this is going to be a stressful time for him, divorce proceedings, even if the relationship has been over for awhile, can and will be stressful. He had a marriage fall apart, I can see why he would be hesitant to jump back into the ring again. Talk about your concerns with him, it's the only way you're gong to get answers for the questions you have
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    May 11, 2009, 08:20 AM

    I think you would be well served by backing away some and let him handle his business, and see how that turns out as for sure until he pops the question and sets the date you will never know.

    Having said that, I think a year is far to soon to even consider marriage with any one.

    We have dated for a year. I am divorced.
    You have a lot to learn about this fellow, and should take the time to do so, after he has taken care of his business.

    What's the hurry, and don't use your ages as an excuse to jump into a marriage. It should make you both thoughtful, and cautious.

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