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I just don't know what to do
My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half. We see each other about twice a week and every time we get to together we have a good time. Even though things are going well she can't say "i love you". Her first relationship was a online one which lasted over a year. She has told me that she really loved this guy to the point of obsession and when it ended she was crushed. Because of this she says "I don't know what to feel". It really hurts me because I do love her. A few months ago she was hanging out with this new guy friend she meet at college. She said he was just a study buddy and she would go over to his apartment for that reason. I knew from meeting him that he liked her and I didn't trust him, so I just trusted in her. After a while their class ended and the friendship diminished. A few weeks later she calls me crying and asking me not to be mad. She told me she almost got intimate with him at one of their study sessions and didn't tell me because she didn't think anything happened. I wasn't mad at her because she told me the truth, and that was a hard thing to do. The only person I'm mad at is him, because I meet the guy and shook his hand FFS. She told me the reason for her leading him on was she never got flattered by boys as a child, and all she ever wanted was a guy's attention. Now she gets it all too much. I tell her she's beautiful all the time but she just can't believe it. I believe it's these self esteem issues that cause the problems. Last night she called and I said maybe we should take some time apart and see what happens. She told me she would miss me a lot and she can't imagine what her life would be without me. The sad thing is I don't think we could just be friends because I know we would both be jealous if the other started dating. Thank you for reading this and please respond with your ideas. :)
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