[princefan]

Hey... I was here last I think 9 months ago when my girlfriend went on a break with me... we were going 2 schools 2 hrs away but more so it was the fact her friends were back in town and she met another guy... I hung out with her then for the 1st 2 week and then stopped did the NC and she came back 2 weeks later and we work good again.

The last 9 months have been great, we went 2 palm springs 4 christmas and such but there have been some bumps along the way.

1) earlier this year she was raped, hard 2 get over, she became a wreck, it was an acquaintance rape, she lost all of her friends... things were rough but I stayed strong and committed and got back on the rite track and got her 2 see a shrink so on and so forth

2) I work nites, I don't get off until late and for the last few months I've been training for a bodybuilding comp, I start workouts at 5 am so there isn't much time 2 hang for at least 5 times a week... also I start law school in the fall and will b 2 hrs away from her again but I have committed 2 being around every weekend with her

When she said she wanted a break 2 weeks ago I was shocked but in reality the last month has been stale and my failure 2 express myself and make further efforts to see her have pushed her away. I love her with all my heart and told her I will compromise and I will. I don't love bodybuilding, its just a hobby that I can give away, I want to be with her... she turns 23 soon and I 22, so we're young and I understand this is a time when younger women want 2 find themselves and so on... its just I'm a mess now, and pray for her return, we had a bad month and I think its good she brought this up but I don't think she should have gave up on us without a discussion. She gives me the 'i still love you but need time line' so I'm hoping for the best but am assured the worst will happen.

If anyone has ne advice on how 2 cope er how I should deal with this situation is much appreciated... thank u

[alfamale]

Really there is nothing you can do but keep moving on. If she has not tried to make amends with you then maybe she really does need time to deal with... All you can do is be there for her when she needs someone. Some things have to be delt with on your own, and pushing someone too hard will do just that and push that person out of your life. Seems like you got a lot of things going for you. Don't let this be something to bring you down you have so much ahead of you. Stay a positive person and look at this as another stepping stone in this life. Good luck

[alfamale]

Maybe she really does just need some time to herself to deal with... You should just keep doing what your doing and if the time comes when she needs you then you be there3 for her. But if you keep pushing her for some type of response to your situation as a relationship then all you are going to do is push her away. I'm shure you both have been through a lot with her incident, but she is probably hurting a lot more than you and you need to see and understand that. I'm shure all she really needs right know is a friend, and that is on her on time. Just relax and keep doing the school thing, everything will fall into place. Let her know that you will always be there if she needs someone to comfort her and though it sounds crude, don't let her bring you down or take you off your success ladder.good luck