[eagle88]

Me and my girlfriend were together for over two years and I love her more than anything, we just broke up about two weeks ago because she says she doesn't want a serious relationship right now, that she wants to have fun and do her own thing for a while... she told me she made out with a guy she meant a little while ago a few days ago... she says she loves me and that she wants to marrry me someday, but she also feels the need to see what's out there, we broke up peacefully and although I was heartbroken, I agreed to let her do what she wants and ill do the same for now.. we have no sexual or emotional limits with others during this break.. she says she has no idea how long it will be until we get back together, whether it be a week, month or year(s). Am I doing the right thing by letting her do what she wants with other guys or should I try and convince her to stay, and not let this happen? Is she still interested and not sure? I don't know please help me!

[Skell]

No need to post your question 4 times in 4 different threads. We will get to you and answer your question!
Just give us time. Be patient!

[talaniman]

I have no idea of your ages but I do know as a general rule if someone wants a break, give it to them. Sounds like she is moving on and is telling you to do the same. Personally I don't think you should hold out any hope of her coming back and I will suggest she has been planning this for a while. Don't call or e-mail or try to discuss this as it will lead to misery on your part. The best thing you can do is remember the good times and get over the pain of ending a relationship. Do the things in life you enjoy and the friends you have and above all move forward and don't look back. Sorry for the bad news but we have all gone through the same thing and as bad as it hurts now, you'll feel better as you go on with your life. Good Luck.

[Skell]

I agree with Tal,

Generally when someone needs a break it means they want out of the relationship.
Sorry, as that is probably hard for you to hear but it is true. I know from experience.

The best thing you can do is pull away and give them the break. Move on as best you can. Don't contact them whatsoever, do other things, other activities, join a gym, workout, sport, school anything to take your mind off them.

Hang with your friends and family and cry on them if you must. Or come here and aks as many questions as you can. BUt right now I would leave her alone. Don't stuff up like I did and beg and plead and cry. It doesn't work! Trust me!

[cbmb]

Amen to that Skull. :D It definitely doesn't work BUT often you are better off if they don't come back. Sometimes it will never be the same once someone has pulled that once on you. You may resent it too much.

[Krs]

Sounds to me like she wants the cake and she wants to eat it all and you are letting her!!

[chuff]

Eagle, it sounds like she's keeping you around just in case something else doesn't work out. You're her back up plan and quite honestly your too good for that so kick her to the curb and find a new woman or better yet learn a little about yourself now.

[purplelilmunster]

If someone wants a break there is nothing you can do to stop it... but I feel as though you should try and find new things and don't keep too much attachment to her that it will affect your relationship with others. If she is not ready then while hassle yourself by trying to make her stay with you.. its good that she was truthful. Try to move on and if she does come back start over new

[lmnotok]

I think you should show some self-esteem, don't be always ready for her coming back. Do you want to be the 2nd choice?
Trust me, living in waiting all the time is the fastest way to kill yourself. Don't give her the reason to treat you like an extra cake.