[artlady]

It is not up to the mother to forbid him contact with his son.
He needs to think of the long term ramifications of not being in his child's life and overcome any obstacles she may throw in his path.

Unless she can prove to family court that a relationship with the father would be detrimental to the son,she has no right to keep them separated.

He needs to petition the court for visitation.There is also mediation through family court and while it is voluntary,it is often helpful to have an objective third party help when the parents do not agree.

[daddysgirl86]

He needs to try a little harder and take himself to the court house write out the child support papers himself... That is what my husband did. SHE WILL HAVE TO COME TO AN AGREEMENT for visitation. He does not have to give her the money he can send it through the courts. Then it will be documented that he is paying and later on will not get in trouble. Let it sit there if she does not want it. Well the child can collect it later. That way when the child gets older they will know he did his part. And he will be able to see his child

[annastar12]

OK thanks daddys girl yo talk sense instead of bitting my head of and saying he doesn't try I should no I have been with him for long enough

[Justwantfair]

ok thanks daddys girl yo talk sense instead of bitting my head of and saying he doesnt try i should no i have been with him for long enough

Everyone has told you that. He needs to enforce his rights because he hasn't done everything he can. He has equal rights to the mother, he isn't doing anything right to enforce his rights.

That is on him, not on her. He has to go to the courthouse and fight for his child.

[daddysgirl86]

ok thanks daddys girl yo talk sense instead of bitting my head of and saying he doesnt try i should no i have been with him for long enough

No problem... but yea like everyone is saying... even though them two are not together they both have EQUAL rights as the child's parents. Remember that

[annastar12]

Yes he has done that and notthing has happened

[Justwantfair]

He has gone to court and filed for visitation?

[annastar12]

Yep and she still won't let him see her

[Justwantfair]

What did the court order for visitation?

[annastar12]

That he see her every other weekend

[liz28]

Then he takes her to court for not obey the court order for visitation.

[Justwantfair]

It's contempt of court and he goes back and lets the court know that the mother is not complying.

He can only handle this through court since the mother is not willing to put the child first, the court will force her to.

[annastar12]

He said he isn't going to win so what the point

[Justwantfair]

There isn't anything to win.

If she is not complying with the court order, it's contempt, they will force her to give every other weekend for visitation or she will go to jail.

[annastar12]

Yes he said he won't win the courts because he's been there so many times

[Justwantfair]

There isn't anything for him to win.

Don't know what other advice to offer. I would never stop fighting for my children and it sounds like he would prefer to give up.

[annastar12]

Oh well he has tried what he can possibly do one day when we have children there will notthing like that as am fair and not like that psycho

[Justwantfair]

If you have children one day, he will be just as likely to not take any responsibility following a break up as he has with his last relationship.

That is your choice, but do not be offended when people call it like they see it. It is pure laziness that keeps him from participating in his child's life and if he is convinced that the mother is psycho (as I am sure he will tell his next g/f about you) then you should want to intercede in order to give stability to this child's life. There isn't any excuse for abandonment.

[annastar12]

For one he didn't say she was psycho I have seen it for 2 it isn't laziness we have spend ££££ on this we can't afford anything else

[Justwantfair]

To see my child I would spend every last ££££ I had.

I have spent over $12,000.00 in the last six years fighting for my daughter, so don't think you are alone in doting to do the right thing for a child!

Why are you spending money, you apparently haven't had counsel, what are you paying for? Besides the child support?