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tammyammy99 · Apr 20, 2009, 07:11 PM

(sorry kind of long) So me and this guy have been talking for 2 months and we both really like each other, but recently his schedule has gotten very busy and he has school, soccer, and work every day and I also have school and soccer everyday. He asked me if it was OK if we took a break until school is out (a month) because we don't have time for a relationship at this very minute but he said he wants to hang out when possible. A few days after he asked to take a break his Facebook had comments from other girls flirting with him and such so I figured he was sort of over me since he wasn't talking to me for days. I decided to go to a movie with a guy FRIEND only after that and when the guy I like found out he freaked out and called me a joke and I think he hates me now. I don't feel like I did anything wrong it was a movie with a friend, harmless but the guy I like doesn't understand that. What should I do to get the guy I like back?

nikosmom · Apr 20, 2009, 07:15 PM

Try sitting down and talking to him. That'll give you a chance to tell him your feelings and hear his as well.

If he's not willing to give you time to explain and talk it out; then you need to move on.

A relationship is nothing without trust and communication.

I wish · Apr 20, 2009, 07:15 PM

Wow the guy just jumped to conclusions. He's the one who said that he's not ready for a relationship right now. So technically you're single and you can do whatever you want. You're allowed to have friends.

Right off the bat we can tell he's very controlling. Is that the type of guy you want to be with?

tammyammy99 · Apr 20, 2009, 07:19 PM

Yeah I know he has a short temper but I feel like I really hurt his feelings by going to this movie with a guy he didn't like in the first place.

I wish · Apr 20, 2009, 07:30 PM

Well he shouldn't be jumping to conclusions.

Think about it, you're not even boyfriend and girlfriend yet and he's jumping at you, imagine after you start dating? Does that mean that you're not going to be allowed to have guy friends?

If you really want to give him another chance, then you'll have to wait until his exam period is over before confronting him.

story-love · Apr 20, 2009, 07:36 PM

basically he wants u to kiss up to him crying for him back.. he doesn't wan u and doesn't wnt ayone else to have u. sit him down tell him how u feel if not let him b the upset one and u move on ha =]

talaniman · Apr 21, 2009, 07:39 AM

First he wants a break because he is to busy to see you, because everything else is more important. That ain't very caring of him.

Then he gets mad because you are out having good clean fun with friends, while he is to busy. Thats not caring or understanding on his part is it??

He doesn't like the guy your friends with, so he is mad about your choice of friends, Jealous and controlling.

So you want a guy who has no time for you, and gets mad, when you have fun without him and is jealous of your choice of friends??

And you want him back, why???

tammyammy99 · May 3, 2009, 11:53 AM

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Do you think he meant everything he said? Does he really not care anymore even though he seems like he does by getting so mad about me asking him about one girl?

MRSMiLLS · May 3, 2009, 11:58 AM

I totally feel you but my boyfriend never said he don't care about me he gets mad when I say he don't care... if he was drunk that night it was probably just a dumb mistake if he was sober when he told you that I think he was just blowing thing out of proportion I don't think he meant it have you talked to him since then??

tammyammy99 · May 3, 2009, 12:01 PM

Well I just asked him about that girl today. I found out they hung out last night. So the fight just happened todayy and he's never said such mean stuff like that to me before so I don't know if he's being honest about not caring and to not talk to him and stuff

MRSMiLLS · May 3, 2009, 12:04 PM

Well this is what I would do...
I would let him cool down and you don't need to stress [stress kills] let him do what he do[what's done in the dark will come to light] &nd if it is over there are more fish in the sea yea it's gone be hard but anygirl that's being mistreated &nd lied to deserves better..

roxypox · May 3, 2009, 12:06 PM

I don't know if he meant it or not, but I wouldn't take it lightly. To say stuff like that is crossing a line in my book. Also he is acting really defensive about the whole thing.

Have you guys had fights before? Where you were mean to each other or was this the first fight where you were mean?

tammyammy99 · May 3, 2009, 12:43 PM

No we've had fighs beforee where he's said stuff like don't ever talk to me again he's just never told me I was annoying and that he doesn't care about me.

StNerevar · May 3, 2009, 03:32 PM

He shouldn't tell you anything like that at all really. Sounds like he's just an a$$hole. You shouldn't stick around and just take the emotional abuse though. I think you should forget this guy and find someone better, and I don't think it's hard to find someone better than this guy.

none12345 · May 3, 2009, 03:44 PM

The day you guys went on a break is the day this relationship ended. Why are you still around him? Relationship ended already!! Go on with your life and don't think about him anymores. =P

talaniman · May 3, 2009, 04:13 PM

I decided to go to a movie with a guy FRIEND only after that and when the guy I like found out he freaked out and called me a joke and I think he hates me now

You were broken up, but he freaked.

Well I just asked him about that girl today. I found out they hung out last night.

You were broken up, but you freaked.

Now walk away and deal with your break up and leave each other alone.

Then you both can get over each other, and have a happy life. Pushing each others buttons, and fighting, ain't love.