[kuulski]

RUN!! :) Yea she did you favor don't give it back to her by talking/hanging out with her. She has issues and she needs to grow up. Good Luck!

[JBeaucaire]

This is going to go badly for you no matter what you do. You might as well give yourself the additional peace of not having to deal with her directly, too.

Now that you're seeing how "closet crazy" this girl is, aren't you glad she dumped you? She has probably saved you from years of misery. YEARS!

[drummergirl6]

Yesh I surpose I just don't get why she is trying to talk to me after 2 months of silence

[JBeaucaire]

You don't need to get it. Let it be confusing and be glad you don't HAVE to figure her out any more.

[drummergirl6]

But I still love her a lot so I just struggling along

[drummergirl6]

I told her I didn't love her any mre which was a lie a few days ago an she went mad an said wel I never loved you eva etc etc an I ent heard from her since so I surpose tahts a good sign

[Dragonfly1234]

Don't give her the time of day. She's using you to make her life more of a soap opera and by the same token, fight boredom! Or she's contacting you now after 2 months because the guy she left you for dumped her after seeing the not-so-wonderful sides of her.

[drummergirl6]

She isn't with another an she wasn't after she split with me she been seeing a lot of another girl..

[drummergirl6]

I don't understand why I still feel I'm in love with my ex... I have got a new paryner but it doesn't feel the same an I miss my ex so much though I know it is a no go back with my ex its been so long now about 5 months at least and I still missing her... all I want to do it talk to her but I can't do this as I know ill fall back into the same trap.. I'm not sure how to really forget her an move on nothing has worked or am I one of them cases that never move on

[myuz]

Join the gym maybe. Its been helping me a bit on moving on. How long did you guys date? Maybe 5 months hasn't been enough time. I think everyone moves on sooner or later its just a matter of the person, the relationship etc. My ex and I broke up only a month ago. I still have days where I think of her constantly. Its tough.

[makapuu]

I think you need to figure out what it is about your ex that you are missing. It is not fair to your new partner that you are having these struggles with the past instead of focusing on your new relationship.

[drummergirl6]

join the gym maybe. Its been helping me a bit on moving on. How long did you guys date? Maybe 5 months hasnt been enough time. I think everyone moves on sooner or later its just a matter of the person, the relationship etc. My ex and I broke up only a month ago. I still have days where I think of her constantly. Its tough.

We were together for about 2 years

[drummergirl6]

I think you need to figure out what it is about your ex that you are missing. It is not fair to your new partner that you are having these struggles with the past instead of focusing on your new relationship.

I miss everythin

[I wish]

It's not a good idea to date another person while still having feelings for your ex. It's not fair to your ex at all.

[talaniman]

You may have gotten a new partner, but you haven't dealt with the old feelings. What has happen lately to bring those feelings back? Have you read the stickies at the front of this forum? Do so.

[ajGambino]

Maybe you haven't healed from your past relationship yet. Only when you feel that you are happy with yourself (and by yourself) is when you can finally move forward and look back to see it was just a stepping stone towards your better future.

[Gemini54]

You've not allowed yourself time to process what happened - you've jumped quickly into a new relationship and are now grieving the old one.

Life is like this. When you try to avoid dealing with something, it brings it right back to you. Pretty hard eh?

What's more, I suspect that must be really hard on your new partner - it's not fair on her and you're not being fair to yourself either for that matter.

Don't talk to your ex. Instead of putting energy into thinking about her, focus on your new partner. Go out, laugh, have fun.

Put your thoughts and energy into what's in your life now, try not to focus on regrets.

[drummergirl6]

Thank you very much guys

[drummergirl6]

Would like to say thanks you to everyone who helps out here and give really good advice it has helped me a lot to relise everything so I would just like to thank you sooo much xx

[kctiger]

No need to thank any of us. Not sure if I helped you, but I am glad to hear that you seem to be doing better.

Now, a greenie, please, or I shoot the cat! :cool: