[snow124]

I've been single for a month as of today. The relationship ended on rather bad terms - it was detailed thoroughly in my previous posts on here. I neither expect nor want to be with my ex again. I'm in NC and am recovering without issue, slowly buy surely. I still get upset about it occasionally and it's on my mind a lot, though.

So, those emotions are being complicated by other things in my life. I'm 22 and still live with my parents. I'm finally graduating from college this fall with a bachelor's degree in computer technology, after going off and on for six years. I work at my school; as a student employee I'll be out of a job after graduation. I'll be without a job or anything to do in seven months. I have one or two job prospects thus far which might pan out, though that's largely dependent on how the economy is at the end of the year. I don't really have any hobbies, I don't spend a lot of time with my friends (they're either busy or just go out drinking, which I don't do), and my life seems joyless.

I guess I'm just saying that I feel lost and lonely. I feel pathetic actually having to try and figure out what I like to do that I enjoy. Some of this, I suppose, is normal after getting out of a three year relationship and being single again. Some of it seems like more than just that, having to do with the state of my life as a whole.

Anyone have some good advice for me to get back on track in life?

[talaniman]

Build a life that you enjoy, it's a lot of work, but worth it.

Volunteer for a worthy cause is a worthy idea while your searching for something to do for yourself.

Your not alone, as its rough on young people to find their niche in life any way. But that's what its about, finding yourself.

Don't pout, and see the obstacles, get busy, and do the work.

[GuyWhoLovesLife]

The Best Thing to do would to start by loving Yourself...
Start yourself off by doing things you enjoy...
It could be nothing as trivial as listening to music,Cycling or even Gossiping... Do just what you enjoy.
And far as your relationship goes.. look 3 years is a hell lot of time... you won't be able to forget it.. but the secret is instead of lingering over it just move on..
I'm sure the guy must have moved on and enjoying his life.. so why don't you do the same... and as far as friends go you can always get new friends.. after all they are not really worth if they don't have time for you in such situation... Also plan a holiday if possible... an just enjoy and move on..

Edited for chatspeak, grammer and spelling

[Gemini54]

Look, it's only been a month... I wouldn't go expecting miracles. Of course you feel lost and lonely - but it's OK to feel this way, and sometimes it's good to experience those feelings instead of feeling that you need to find something else to replace them with.

Grieving is normal and natural.

Why not start our slowly, watch a few movies that you like. Sad ones and funny ones as well... spend time with your family, talk to the people that you do like, eat some nice food. In other words, look after and nurture yourself. You're feeling emotionally wounded so treat yourself a little bit like someone that has to be treated gently.

A little ways down the track you can get out and listen to some music, perhaps play some sport, go away with friends for the weekend. Look for work - even if it is in a volunteer capacity - start thinking about what you can do for others - this is a great thing to do because it takes the focus off yourself.

Slowly but surely you'll realise that you're feeling less sensitive, more engaged with people and life and, hopefully happier.

I wish you all the best.