[barbiechick123]

Hey, so you know I have liked the same boy for a WHILE, but I don't feel like its moving too fast, I am sure he likes me and I really like him, but I really want a boyfriend.

There is this other guy, a grade above me, who I am slightly attracted to, and he asked me out a few times... I don't know what should I do.

Old guy or New guy?

[JBeaucaire]

You're right, that's a dilemma, isn't it. Since you know we can't tell you which to choose, I will point out that this is the kind of stuff you have to deal with as you grow up.

Dating is ALL about making choices:

• Do this or that?
• Date this guy or that one?
• Date both and stay uncommitted or one exclusively?
• Live with those bad traits in my BF or move on and start again with someone else?
• Marry him or not?

Every choice for one thing means other options are passed... good options, too, but passed.

You can't be stressed about choosing which is "right" because often these aren't choices between right and wrong, they are simply choices... and living with the results of the choices.

Dating is about practicing making these choices. Don't regret your choices whether they work out or not (and they usually don't to be honest.)

You'll be fine. Choose.

[barbiechick123]

I'm not sure. I tried making a "pros" "cons" kind of thing, but there are more cons then pros... I guess it's because I was raised in a pessimistic environment.

Anyway, thanks for your advice.

[Clough]

Hi, barbiechick123!

I really do like the answer that JBeaucaire gave to you! There is one thing in particular in his post that struck me the most, and that would be the word "practice".

You're still growing up and exploring things that will be affecting you for the rest of your life. You and your friends are going to be going through many changes in how you feel about a lot of things because of the information that you will learn and the subsequent choices that you will make.

To me, I think that it would be best to be checking out a number of guys in order to see what kind of person it would be with whom you will be most compatible for the time being and perhaps, maybe permanently. That takes practice... The art of having and maintaining relationships takes practice.

About eighteen years ago, an engagement of over three years for me to be married to a woman ended. She needed to do more exploring as to what she really wanted out of life and relationships with others.

She was divorced, as was I. However, I had dated many women, whereas the man that she had married and subsequently divorced after a number of years of marriage, was the only man that she'd ever dated.

For me, practicing is the key here...

Thanks!

[Chebaby]

My advice to you would be choose who you feel is more engraved in your heart. And stop wanting a boy friend so bad it makes you look desperate if you take your time then you will find someone even better than you imagine.

[braindamage]

Choose who u feel

[NallaNeedsYou]

Whilst practicing, don't take it too seriousely. If you let every guy get hold of a bit of your heart, they will rip you to shreds. Stay outgoing but hold onto your emotions because otherwise you might be stuck with a guy whilst watching the one for you walk by the window.