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ryman1989 · Apr 28, 2009, 06:41 PM

About a week or so ago, my GF broke up with me, said she wanted to date other people. Well, I kind of went through the same thing a while ago and realized that it wasn't what I wanted. I hurt her really badly and now she's afraid to have feelings for me because she's afraid I'll hurt her again. So I suggested we start fresh by being friends and you know maybe she'll get passed that and maybe we'll be together again. If worse comes to worse at least we'll still be friends. We've known each and dated for a little over 3 years. So I thought that maybe this was a good way to go about it so I could regain that trust. Did I get this right

mudweiser · Apr 28, 2009, 06:55 PM

In what way did you hurt her?

If your sorry for what you did, said it and meant it, and are willing to not repeat the same mistake with her or anyone else then your in the clear. Mistakes are meant for you to learn from.

I'm sure over 3 years of dating you do develop feelings so what she said really has no logic-- me thinks she was using that as an excuse to get out of the relationship just to date other people.

Well.. that's just my opinion.

Sarah

JoeCanada76 · Apr 28, 2009, 07:04 PM

How is that working for you? Why are you asking if you got it right?

What is your friendship like now. Did it work for you?

I wish · Apr 29, 2009, 06:39 AM

Just know that it's really tough to stay friends with an ex. I think it's better if you guys stay away from each other for a while to recover from the breakup before trying to be friends again. It's just going to be more painful for you because you still have feelings for her and it doesn't look like she's going to feel the same way anymore. When she tells you that she wants to see each other, it's a really bad sign. It's like closing the door on you.

In my experience, when the trust is broken, it's almost impossible to regain it back. You can regain some of it, but not all of it and she will continue to have doubts about you.