[binx44]

Thanks for the help

[Wildcat21]

I LEAVE. This guy has shown he is a complete jerk - this sounds liiek a form of abuse as well.

I the mean time start pulling back and preparing for the leave... maybe he will wake and realize you are leaving and change - I doubt it though - this gu yis a dumbazz.

[binx44]

He kicked me out a few hours ago.. its over... he woke up from a nap and looked at me and told me to leave

[J_9]

Binx, I am sorry to hear this for you, but on the other hand I am happy that you are out of this abuse.

Apparently he can't grow RESPECT!!

I know it hurts now, and may for a while. But look at the fact that you can be YOURSELF now. You don't need some freak telling you how to act.

Keep us posted as to how you are doing. And, no matter what he says, don't go back. Tell him that you don't need to grow a sense of humor, but he needs to grow balls!!

Wow, did I say that? Well, if he is going to be a real man someday that is what he will need to grow.

You take care of you now. And don't forget you have us for support.

[talaniman]

I hate to see relationships break-up but in this case I think celebration is in order. You have just gotten rid of a major obstacle to your happiness.

[Skell]

Yeah Binx,

Im very sorry to hear this for the fact that you must be really hurting and feeling alone right now. We all know that feeling.
But really, this guy has done you a favour. He has treated you like crap for long enough! It should have been you leaving him but you are obviously a good person and have been pateint with him. There are some lessons there for you.
Nwo pelase don't leook back. He will probably at some point expect you to come crying back to him. Beggine, pleading with him to take you back. Don't giove him this pleasure.
Look forward. Go. Never contact him again. Don't let him contact you. Don't go back to this abuse!
Please, be with friends, family now. Cry on their shoulders for as long as you need.
Join a gym, workour, feel better about yourself. But whatever you do just look forward now and realise it will get better and that you are so much BETTER with out this abuser!

[Krs]

Ohhh I'm sorry.

It will hurt now, but time does heal and you will slowly learn you have lost nothing.. its him who lost a respectful girl.

Keep strong.

[tirednhurt86]

I found myself in a similar circumstance as you not too long ago. I was in a serious 2 year relationship with my boyfriend and he acted similar to yours. He would say cruel things to me, and let his friends say mean things to me in joking ways, and I, like you could not handle it.the teasing took its toll on me. And when I talked to my ex about it he would get mad at me! He would say things like if we broke up and I was with (insert a girl friend of his name here), would you be mad? Or things like shut up or get out and walk home and then when I cried or told him it hurt me, he would either say you can't take a joke or hed get mad at me and start a huge blow out fight. This is emotional abuse as much as we want to pretend its not. I'm out of it now and I hope you are too. It hurts, but the emotional abuse every day would have been a lot worse. Hang in there. Breakups are awful and I'm still struggling, but in time you will meet someone who will treat you right and respect u, unlike this guy here. And when it is over id advise you to never go back even if its hard. Cut contact and fight through each day- u will be stronger because of it. Trust me.

[Wildcat21]

In the long run this will be a great thing. A great thing for your life. You don't need people like this in your life. It was a really bad situation - obviously he did not love and could not tell you that.

[binx44]

Love was never the problem.I hurt so much.. I don't have friends to talk to my best and only friend is his friend too and he's there every night with his cousin

I feel like hell and so alone

[Wildcat21]

Well, we're here for you - talk it out. You're better off without the abuse - which was not going to stop - he felt it was OK to abuse you - that's horrible. You seem like a great gal - move on. Go back to schol, new job...

Where are you livng now? Somewhere safe?

[talaniman]

Seems like this break-up has pointed out some things you neeed to work on like having a life without him, new friends and places to go and different things to do. Scary I know, but think of the opportunity to build the kind of life you want, and being treated with dignity and respect from some real nice people who want you to succeed. Cry today but look forward to the future.

[BIM]

As Wildcat asked... Where are you staying? Do you have a job? You need a place to stay for a while and if I recall you said you weren't employed right now, those are major for you. Do you have any family or a friend? I know you mentioned your only friend is his friend also... that sucks. That is why it is so important that when people get into relationships that each of you keep your own friends, so you both have someone to talk to.

If you could find a job that could keep you pretty busy and maybe you could meet someone through there. These first few weeks are the toughest... but time heals all pain. Where are you using the computer at?

[Wildcat21]

Tal - I can't spread - but you hit it on the head!! That's it - she needs other things in life. Where are her other friends?? Because these guys were not her friends.

[Skell]

Well if your friend is there with your ex and his cousin every night then she / he isn't your real friend.
Call her. Tell her you need her now. Talk to her. If she doesn't help you maybe you could talk to family.
If they can't help you then find someone, anyone to talk to. In oz here with have counselling hotlines which are free for people to call and simply have a chat with someone!
Just try and talk to people. Keep yourself occupied. I know it sounds so hard and the pain is incredible but you will get through this.
You WILL!!

[Skell]

Or join a sports club, a gym. Anywhere where people are. You must try and stay busy! Work, school, sport, gym, art, anything... Just try and find things to do!
Just don't drink or do drugs. That certainly won't help!

[talaniman]

Or you could spend some time asking and answering questions on a forum or ask me helpme site where people look for answers to the questions of life and get to know good people from all over the dang gone world. A goood past time between working out and bird watching.

[binx44]

I'm using the computer at my mothers house but I have to leave here wed. after my doctors apt in lunenburg. My friend said I could live with her but I would feel bad moving inthere because she has 5 children. I still don't have a job and have been trying so hard to find one.. I don't know if I can do this though. I've never felt things hurt so much in my life before... was talking to him and he said that "he couldn't live with me right now and he couldn't go out with me but he still wanted to be my friend. He said he still wants to spend time with me and that if I ever think he's going to go out and get another girlfriend I am thinking wrongly. He said he doesn't want to be with anyone. Last night was the first time in 5 years I've seen him cry... it hurts so much

[talaniman]

Binx, Feel your pain but it is important for you to focus on you and getting your life together starting with a job and a place to stay. Forget the boyfriend and not contacting him at all will help healing and give you time to do what is needed for you right now. The feelings can heal but you must learn to support yourself.

[Krs]

You have to worry about yourself now and no one else.
You are your own priority right now, just remember that!