[Claire58]

My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, he lives almost five hours away and I see him on an average of once a month.
Sometimes when he tells me he went to see a movie or just went out, I ask him if he went alone and he'll just say no, nothing else.
I like to be the cool girlfriend, the one that won't nag or ask where you've been or get jealous when I see a picture of a girl on his cell phone. I wonder if this is my downfall.
Will it be wrong of me to ask him who he went with to the movies, I just don't want it to look like maybe I'm suspecting he went with a girl and that's y I'm asking.
Please tell me what to do.

Ps. Last night while I was chatting with him, I first asked him if he was home and he said yes, later I wanted to send him a file and he said he was using his phone to chat because he wasn't home. I asked. "didnt you just say you were home?" he just wouldn't give a straight answer and wouldn't even tell me where he was.

[starlite1]

Hi Claire,

I don't want to alarm you, but he sounds shady. I think you have a right to ask who is at the movies with. Also, long distance relationships can be difficult because you don't see each other as often as a locally geographical relationship. I don't mean to sound as if your boyfriend is doing anything wrong, but for him not to say who he went to the movies with, and then to lie about not being home, I would say there are red flags.

[Romefalls19]

You have every right to ask who he went out with, it's not nagging if you ask that. Just don't ask too many questions like time, date, who he ran into, stuff like that.

I wouldn't jump to conclusions yet, talk to him about it, but definitely be on alert because he did raise a red flag.

[talaniman]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...on-321465.html

Hard to have any relationship without trust, and you both have done enough to worry about.

Long Distance Relationship Advice | The Frisky

This should be a good read for you.

[I wish]

You need to confront him with your concerns. Long distance relationships are really tough and if you don't constantly communicate, it's really easy to be distant and drift away.

Read the links that talaminan provided.

It's not about being a needy girlfriend. It's the fact that you are losing your trust in him. Without trust, there's no relationship.

[Claire58]

Thanks u guyz!!