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    wamboi Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Apr 27, 2009, 10:26 PM
    How to reach orgasm
    My boyfriend usually insists that for the both us to reach orgasm we have to have had sex like for 30 to 45min only one round. Am not too sure because sometimes I before like after 15mins he really feels bad and says that my orgasm is premature. Is this normal?
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    Apr 27, 2009, 10:31 PM

    I have never heard of a specific time to have an orgasm, everyone is different, he should be happy that he satisfies you in that short period.
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    Apr 27, 2009, 11:33 PM

    I'm a little confused by that...
    So he is saying that you come too early?
    It is possible to come more than once in a session (and damn good to)
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    Apr 27, 2009, 11:45 PM
    I don't get it. Is it because you come before him? Why would that bother him?

    Sex is about having a good time, being relaxed and enjoying each other - there are no restrictions on the number of orgasms you have or when you should have them. Most often it's men who have a problem with coming quickly, not women.

    There is no reason why you can't continue to have sex after you've had an orgasm, although some women feel a bit sensitive.
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    Apr 28, 2009, 09:27 AM
    To satisfy female partner shall be the actually motto during sexual course. Normally male partner gets orgasm earlier and female later. Tip for male partner to satisfy female partner: They should control breath and try... after some attempts... definitely one will succeed.
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    Apr 28, 2009, 10:00 AM

    Tell him its not about rules that he made up,sex is about sharing and fun with complete abandon and not having to worry about who gets off first.
    Maybe it is premature for him because he takes so long to reach orgasm.
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    Apr 28, 2009, 03:29 PM

    Artlady had to spread the rep because I couldn't give you a greenie but right one.

    Why does your boyfriend feels bad because your having an orgasm? Most guys would be happy but he sure isn't. Is he jealous?

    How educated he is about sex because he is way out base. Maybe he should attend a sex 101 class to learn more about it.
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    Apr 28, 2009, 05:01 PM

    Have to ask. How old are you? How old is your boyfriend?
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    Apr 28, 2009, 05:17 PM
    Uhm...

    Mkay...

    Personally, I see absolutely NOTHING wrong with you getting to orgasm first... in fact, it is kind of preferred... given a choice, I think most partners I've ever had would agree...

    Second, why does he need a stopwatch? Is he trying to mimic porn movies? Seriously... he should be thrilled you are mentally and physically primed and able to hit orgasm.

    There are women here who would kill to be in your place.

    You are not "broken". Not one bit. Period.

    If he keeps this noise up, I'm worried he is going to make you stress and fret, which can provide mental baggage and self doubt, which CAN affect your ability to hit orgasm.

    Now... some women are quite sensitive after orgasm and cannot continue, at least immediately. Is this part of the problem? That you hit it and then have to stop? Is it painful to continue immediately? Over an extended time? Is he unable to hit orgasm because you are highly sensitized?

    More info please...
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    Apr 28, 2009, 05:26 PM

    I don't even come during sex. I don't know what he's complaining about.
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    May 15, 2009, 09:07 AM

    Totally normal. Maybe you can have another one if he wants you to wait for him to have one.
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