[Cooker8200]

So here is the deal, I was going out with my girlfriend for about 5-6 months then almost out of the blue we went to bed and she started crying and telling me that she didn't want to hurt me but that we weren't really compatible, that was Tuesday. I know that we had our differences but everything was going great and we both were very happy. So, I understood where she was coming from and stayed the night comforting her. The next day we already had made plans prior to the breakup to go out, so I took her to work... where she cried over me again... then when I picked her up she cried again at home. After she went to sleep for her nap I left for a while and came back to go to dinner then out to the bar. At the bar she started crying again over it, but pulled herself together and had a fun night (at least I hope, I'm not really sure), and I spent the night again (mostly because I couldn't drive). Wednesday we talked for a bit on the phone, Thursday we didn't really talk at all... Friday she called and I ended up suggesting going out to a bar for a while (since I was a little drunk I was acting more lovey and like a boyfriend instead of a friend at the time and I think she didn't know what to do with that) and ended up spending the night again. We have plans to go do something tomorrow and hang out though. We have had several talks about why she wanted to end it and it seems like she always come up with a far out excuse (wanting to move to Australia, or doesn't know what she's going to do in a year) or just tried to say that we don't see life the same way and that it would be hard to go on further (pretty much hurt less now instead of hurting more later). We still say I love you to each other and don't seem to have any problem sleeping in the same bed, but we're not intimate. I've talked to several people about it and have heard mixed things from, we were't compatible to she was scared because things were moving too fast to she didn't want to marry me (which that never came up at all). We were very opposite sometimes but always got along and didn't have many quarrels.

Now I am blogging here and there just letting some of my feelings out and realized the other day that I don't just want to be friends, but that I want her back no matter what. Thinking about her with another guy fills me with rage, even though I know there isn't anyone else. I just don't know if I should go and tell her some of those deep feelings because I keep getting semi-mixed signals and don't want to lose her as a good friend if I say something that makes me look like someone who is desperate but really just wants to let her know my true deep feelings for her. I know it may not work out later, but that is something to cross when it comes up I believe.

Any advice on what you think may be going on or what to do?

[I wish]

Just keep talking to her. Communication is the key.

Just a thought, but it sounds like she wants to accomplish things and that your relationship might be holding her back. For example, if she wants to move to Australia, but part of her doesn't want the long distance relationship.

I always tell my gfs the same things. I would tell them to do whatever it is they want to do whether we're together or not. For example, if she gets into several universities, she should go to her first choice, nor matter what.

The down side is one of the two people might not be able to handle the long distance.

Just keep talking to her. As for the compatibility part, you really have to find a way to dig it out of her. What does she mean by compatibility? I'm sorry to say, but this part might be the beginning of the end of your relationship. Is it something that can be fixed? Both of you need to address all the difficult questions together. I have to emphasize one more time: "communication is the key"