[deidraharley]

I wrote previously on worrying about not getting pregnant. I was on the pill for 5mths(june 08 to November 08) and me and my husband wanted to get pregnant but we have been trying for almost 6mths now and I am still not pregnant. I'm thinking its either the pill still is in my system or I'm not timing my days I'm ovulating the most so can someone please help me figure out my days of ovulation. I just got my last period March 24 and I just got this months period April 22. I'm not sure which days I am ovulating. HELP!

[DoulaLC]

With the dates you gave it puts you at a 29 day cycle... however, this is just one. Do you know if your cycles are normally 29 days? It would give you a starting place. Generally a woman will ovulate about 12-16 days before her next period is due regardless of how long her cycle is.

HOWEVER focusing just on those days can cause you to miss your window of opportunity by just a matter of a few days. This is because many women do not follow the "norm" at all. Some will naturally ovulate a bit sooner (I did), and some naturally a bit later. It can happen that you may ovulate at a completely off time on occasion as well.

I'd use the average to start with, which would put you around the week of May 3. I would watch for signs that your body may be preparing for ovulation... most common will be an increase in vaginal discharge that becomes clearer and more fluid. I would also start trying several days before the 3rd and right through the end of that week. Have you tried ovulation predictors or temping and charting? They work well for some women, not for others, but they can be one more tool in trying to determine when you are most likely to be ovulating.

If you can have sex every other day throughout the cycle, and several more times during the week you suspect ovulation may occur, that can help... but I realise that is not always a possibility or a desire. Putting sex on a schedule can really take its toll and the last thing you want is for it to become a chore!

It is also important to remember that timing is just one element in conception... everything has to be in order in that particular cycle for it to take place. This is why it can take many couples most of a year or more before they achieve pregnancy. Doctors usually do not consider starting any fertility testing until you have been actively trying for over a year... 6 months, sometimes less, if you are 35 or older.

Easier said than done, but try your best not to worry. I know 6 months seems like a long time, but in terms of conception it really isn't. If you have the means, maybe plan a small trip away that week, or do something out of the ordinary, something fun, something relaxing... enjoy your time together. Try to focus on enjoying each other, not trying to make a baby.

Hope it is not too much longer for you!

[deidraharley]

Yes they are usually 29 to 30 days apart. I just can't ever time it right. We were also calculating the first week of may too so we will start then and see what happens. THANKS!

[astrus]

Try to use this ovulation calendar tool Ovulation Calendar | Advanced Woman Calendar - pregnancy ovulation calendar by eOvulation to trace your cycle and find the date of ovulation.