[bc472556]

3 threads merged.

I'm a college student and this year there has been one boy who I have had a thing for the whole year. Every time we see each other he stares at me and make very direct eye contact. His friends all stay stuff to me referring to me as his "wifey" and other immature comments. He is very shy but every time we are at a party together he makes sure to say hello or start a conversation. He never takes his eyes off me, but this has been going on since September. However just last week he sent me a text message after being at the same party and wanted me to come see him. Due to the lateness in time I never went. But I am so extremely interested in him and to me it just feels so real and so right but I have no clue. Is he into me?

[lighterrr]

Lol, your post is so cute. Yes! I think he has a crush on you and just doesn't know how to put his cards on the table and let you know that he is In fact into you. You should meet up with him and see what he has to say.

Good luck, keep us posted

[annybaby84]

I think he already give you a hint by texting you to go see him at night! If he is interested, he'll ask you to hang out again!

=] good luck! Give him a little hint, too...

[nikosmom]

I don't see anything wrong with getting to know him. Maybe meet for lunch or coffee. I think it was wise in not going to see him at night because it would've sent the wrong message.

He may just be shy; some people warm up once they get to know someone and you may not in fact have to "teach him to be a boyfriend".

Just don't overthink it and have fun. :)

[cooch]

He is definitely attracted to you. When he sent you the text, did you text him back? You should text him asking to meet at a mutually convenient time.

[bc472556]

Thanks for the feed back. Yes I did text him back but we agreed not to meet that night. Since then I have only seen him socially never one on one however when ever we talk in a group he seems to be discussing the conversation towards me. But with the school year ending soon and summer starting how do I speed this process up?

[I wish]

I think he lacks experience. He doesn't really know what to do. Just keep in mind, if you start dating, you're going to fin that he's very innocent and lack experience. So you will have to be his girlfriend and his boyfriend guide at the same time.

Chances are he's too scared to get rejected by you. So maybe as a possible future guy, you should consider making the first move to help him out a bit to get the ball rolling.

If you have his number, can't you just call him over the summer? What's there to speed? You'll have more free time in the summer.

[bc472556]

We don't live very close to each other and Id like to have some kind of establishment before the summer

[princess uniqua]

I'm a college student and this year there has been one boy who I have had a thing for the whole year. Everytime we see eachother he stares at me and make very direct eye contact. His friends all stay stuff to me referring to me as his "wifey" and other immature comments. He is very shy but everytime we are at a party together he makes sure to say hello or start a conversation. He never takes his eyes off of me, but this has been going on since september. However just last week he sent me a text message after being at the same party and wanted me to come see him. Due to the lateness in time i never went. But I am so extremely interested in him and to me it just feels so real and so right but I have no clue. Is he into me?

OK girl this is what you need 2 do real talk I go through this a lot well you need 2 ask him if he want to chill with u 1 day and if he say yea don't get 2 happy about that when you go and chill just stay cool don't b all over him and don't try 2 hard let him come to you and if he start 2 coe to you well you may have something;)

[JudyKayTee]

You are posting on the adult boards, not the teen boards. Please don't use text speak - there is no particular hurry to get your answer out there.

[lighterrr]

ok gurl this is what u need 2 do real talk i go through this alot well u need 2 ask him if he wanna chill with u 1 day and if he say yea dnt get 2 happy about that wen yall go and chill just stay cool dnt b all over him and dnt try 2 hard let him come 2 u and if he start 2 coe 2 u well u may have something;)

Lol spoken like a true pro, good luck girlie tell us how it goes:)

[bc472556]

Ok if you have read my other post you know I am into one boy so much. And I feel like there is jut something that clicks like something feels so real even though we aren't together at all. I feel like I am in love with boy I hardley know and he feels like the one. Can this be true?

[mudweiser]

Honestly, that sounds a little creepy.

How about trying to talk to him first, see if you guys have things in common.

Slow your roll buck-o.

Sarah

[mudweiser]

ok gurl this is what u need 2 do real talk i go through this alot well u need 2 ask him if he wanna chill with u 1 day and if he say yea dnt get 2 happy about that wen yall go and chill just stay cool dnt b all over him and dnt try 2 hard let him come 2 u and if he start 2 coe 2 u well u may have something;)

Why are you contradicting yourself Uniqua? On your last post in another thread you said you were in love with another boy and were wanting to get married. Someone that has this going on does not ask other guys to "chill with you" because they seem interested.

Don't believe me here is the thread and here is what you wrote:

ok iamb n da same iamb iamb with this boy and i love him 2 and we plan 2 get married but any way i think u shocked follow yo heart if u really do love dis girl u shouldnt car what anybody else say thats what i do and i think if u really explain it 2 yo parents they will understand if they dint than it

I'm calling you out and saying : troll.

Sarah

[Nestorian]

Ok if you have read my other post you know I am into one boy so much. And I feel like there is jut something that clicks like something feels so real even tho we aren't together at all. I feel like I am in love with boy I hardley know and he feels like the one. Can this be true?

Actually, that sounds like your primal urges to mate and have babies are getting the better of your thinking. Hormones are running wild, and if you don't keep them in check, you'll find yourself suffering, but unable to correct it as you are too attatched to some one. The movies kind of love may exist, but it's not very likely. Love at first sight. Ok, what is love then? Are we like animals still, we see some one we are attracted to and we just jump them? Yes I know that's not what you mean, but you are saying you love some one you don't really know.

Question: Do you love yourself? Really? Do you know yourself?

Perhaps you may look into learning to control your "Feelings" and pay more attention to the mind, no the brain. Yes two different things. The brain is that strange spongy thing your teachers are telling you to use. The mind, that is the thoughts that control it, and they affect one another, so do pay attention to both.

So, what is love to you?

[bc472556]

It's not the movie kind of love at first sight, we've had many conversations and have socially hung out on many occasions just never that one on one I desire.

[Nestorian]

It's not the movie kind of love at first sight, we've had many conversations and have socially hung out on many occasions just never that one on one I desire.

Sorry the wayt you said it above made it sound like that. Leave it to me to misinterpret:rolleyes:, meh.

Hmmm, why not just ask him out, who cares if he likes you. He doesn't know you, or you two would be dating by now. Either put your foot forwad or stop thinking aoubt it and focus on, oh I don't know, school? Haha Really why sit here and ask us questions if he likes you. We know only what you tell us, odds are we'll come to the same conclution you would. Then again maybe not.

Ask him for something casual like coffee, and just get to know him. Then go from there, either keep that up, or start going to movies and such.

Good luck, and may peace and kindness be with you.

[Nestorian]

JudyKayTee, you are entitled to your opinion, all four in the last 3-weeks. Thank you for your comments, May peace and kindness be with you.

I was simply stating what I though to be true based upon my understanding of "Love" "attraction" and the neurological asspects of the brain, and what I precive to be "basic instincts". Then I was asking "siriously" those questions. "Unnecessarily patronizing."-JudyKayTee I can see where you'd get that, but to be fair, you leave no evidence in your comment, and so, I'm sorry I can't not explain myself better. My apologies.

Peace and kindness be with you.

[bc472556]

Thanks everyone for the feedback and I actually have good news! We are both from NY and both go to school in PA so we kind of bond by that. All of our serious conversations are about home and how even though we are from way diff. parts of New York it still bonds us. Anyway Friday night I went away and didn't even think about him but Saturday night he texted me! He said he had some friends up from home and he wanted them to have a good weekend and hang out withsome cool and he was like so I figured id hit you up I mean you are from NY and that alone makes you cool. So we met up at a party at the party there were a lot of people but we still managed to have a few conversations but as we were walking back from the party as I proceeded to go towards my block with my friends he called us back and was like oh you girls don't want to hang out anymore, come back to my house were all still chillen. So me and my girlfriend went back to his house and we all just hung out there was 3 of them and 2 of us and no matter what he was talking about he seemed to be telling only me. Even to the point where one of his friends was like "can I hear the story too" He was very flirty and even teasing me a little about being from "fake ny" I told him all about my little one night get away on Friday and he proceeded to tell me all about the one time he went to the place Ihad gone. I can tell he didn't want me to leave when I did But I was glad I did. I just don't know what to do cause now there are only 2 weeks left. Suggestions?

[bc472556]

I posted that on another thread and just thought maybe you guys had some feedback as well, I hope so :confused: