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Carol09 · Apr 20, 2009, 12:59 PM

I've been with my partner for almost 3 years now. Im 14 weeks pregnant and this will be our first prgnancy. We are both still young for a unplanned pregnancy. My problem is that now that I've become prgnant we seem to have no sex at all. I insist on talking about the situation, and he's given me a few disturbing responses. He claims to not be attracted to me because he feels weird about my belly. I don't know. Personally I feel like that's a load of crap. My question is... Does he feel like I'm just his "babymomma" now and finds that completely unttractive (by the way I'm completely not unttractive). Does he feel like he's being tied down and just has to be in this relationship for our child and will find sexual adventure with someone else. Honestly I feel as if he's sucking all the fun out of our relationship just because we are becoming parents now. Honestly I've always found myself to be very adventurous and sexual and pleasurable with my partner. The worst part of all is that he admitted he's been masturbating very very often, I suppose to pleasure himself without having to put me in the picture. Im concerned because we used to be very sexually active. Ugh! I don't care who says what, sex is an important factor ina relationship. SO IS THIS JUST A PHASE OR THE START TO OUR ENDING RELATIONSHIP??

... I would really apprecitate any helpful answers or advice!

lighterrr · Apr 20, 2009, 01:11 PM

So the pregnancy was not planned. How does he feel about becoming a father is he scared to death? How old are you guys? Do you have a reliable income to support the growing family? Your partner has obviously withdrawn from you and he has not been able to vocalize it or make you understand how he is feeling. Have you asked him, what is going on in his head?

When I was pregnant my partner didn't really want to have sex all that much, he said its because I was pregnant and he didn't want to hurt me he just wanted the baby to be OK and grow in peace. LOL I was OK with having no sex cause I had absolutely no sex drive during the pregnancy.

artlady · Apr 20, 2009, 01:26 PM

Many men do not feel like making love with a pregnant woman.

My first sons father was adamant about it.He still loved me ,I knew that but he just felt like he was doing something wrong.

I talked to my Gynecologist about it and she told me it was quite common.

He needs to be informed that it is O.K.

Once you get him going he will realize,sex can be just as good as before ,if not better,especially on your end.

You are sharing one of the most intimate bonds a couple will ever have by bringing a new life into this world.Tell him ,you want the entire package and that means him as well.Let him know how important it is to you.

Here is a link I hope you find helpful.Have him read it!

Keeping Your Sex Life Alive During Pregnancy - You & your partner -

Xrayman · Apr 20, 2009, 03:44 PM

Personally, again my opinion... I think pregnant women are very sexy. It has the opposite effect on me. Women have mixed feelings about being pregnant, for some the time is a time of great sex, for others it's "don't even think about it!".

For some men I think the loss of being lithe and trim puts them off. Considering the "visual stimulation" effect that we have...

bronzebabe · Apr 20, 2009, 04:58 PM

The pregnancy wasn't planned, he knows very little about women and pregnancy...he might think he can hurt the baby if you have sex, (which he can't)...or he might feel very pressured about all this...unplanned pregnancy Can result in loss of sexual appitite for a guy...

lighterrr · Apr 20, 2009, 08:37 PM

Yep, definitely talk to him and see why he is holding back from you sexually

liz28 · Apr 21, 2009, 02:31 PM

Maybe he should go with to your doctor appointment so that he can hear it from the doctor that it okay to have sex while your pregnant.

The baby is well protected in the amino sac so you can do all the bumping and grinding you want.

When I was pregnant my sex drive double and my fiancé love making love and had no problem with doing it.

However with my first child my daughter's father was scare because he really thought he could hurt the baby. I remember one time we were having sex and he swore up and down that he felt the baby hand. It was all in his head but his face at the time was priceless, mixed with shocked and fear. After he spoke to the docter he felt better about having sex but still a little hesitant.