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    theresbeautyinu Posts: 108, Reputation: 3
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    Apr 19, 2009, 12:45 PM
    Need to Change
    My friend was upset because I change my mood... I know I do change my mood allot, and I'm not sure why... I've had allot of stress lately and it makes me really emotional... I'm starting to forget who I was... I've turned into a totally different person... and I need to know how to change myself back.
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    Apr 19, 2009, 04:10 PM
    I used to be really emotional once until I talked to someone.that person taught me that when you're down, push all sadness aside and bring happiness closer.think of happy things not sad.
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    Apr 20, 2009, 12:15 PM

    I've tried so much... its so hard... its like, all I think about is the sad stuff in my life,. and all the happy stuff is so far to reach.
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    Apr 21, 2009, 07:57 PM
    Do you ever talk to your friend about this problem?
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    Apr 21, 2009, 08:40 PM

    Inportant things to bemindful of when "thinking Positively".

    1)Be aware for your thinking!

    2) break it down, why are you sad (thoughts), what are they? How do you change them? (Think about the positive in the situation. Yes you may not get what you want, but that doesn't mean it's the end of the world, life seems pliable and as you go you learn to change with it, and enjoy all the things that make you happy.)

    3)Imagination! Imagine your dreams, picture them in your head. Don't think about them, just picture them in your head. Feel them on your body, smell them, and imagine bing right there in your dream. "Embrace your dreams."-Angeal from Core Crisis:FF vii. I've added on, "Embrace your dreams, so you don't have to look for them when the darkness comes."-Me (made it when I was having the same issue as you. I needed a reason, and so I pictured my dreams, lived them. Became entirely consumed with it, just to give me hope.)

    4) Consistancy!! Keep on top of your 1)Awareness, yes at first you will miss it, but catch it later. Keep reminding yourself to be mindful. Once aware, 2) ask the questions. Then think of the positives in the situation. Always one following the other. 3)Imagine the positives, let them fill you with strength and sense of peace. If you can't seem to find enough positives, "embrace your dreams."-Angeal 4)Consitancy, keep it all up, and keep doing it never give up, "there is no try, only do or do not"-Yoda. The more you do it the more you will want to do it. You are training yourself, and rewireing your brain.

    This is apart of self affrimation. Think positive and you will receive positive. Focus only on the good, not the bad. You are happy, you will be happy, you have been happy. Focus on the good.

    Cognitive Psychology, it's more complicated, but there are Drivers, stoppers, and confusers.
    The drivers make us push too hard, too fast, too long, too much. Usually leads to burning out.
    Stoppers, prevent us from doing things. We over analize things, or worry too much, make excuses, feel inadequate. Usually ends up in staying the same never changing, and never moving ahead in life. Comfortable in your "box".
    Confusers, are when we over gernerallize, put the blame for our life's disstress on others, Narrow minded ness (causing use only to see one side Ex: A "significant other" breaks your heart and you overgenerallize but ignore the good factors and see only the negative, or even simply ignore that you were hurt by one person, not all those of the same sex.)

    The Cognitive Psych can all be delt with, but it takes time, and some one needs to teach it to you, unless you find a really good book on it.

    Just thought I'd add that for you.

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