[carfish]

My ex and I were together for a year and a half. Everything was great. We weren't fighting or anything. We still had sex till the day it fell apart. It was love at first sight. I have had many relationships with others and so has he, but I never felt this way about anybody before. I actually saw a future with him. He would tell me I am the one for him. He has never met anyone like me. We have a dog together, we were getting a house, starting to build our life together when out of the blue he left me. His friend was picking him up from work and we were going to a birthday party, but he never showed up. I would call him and he said he'd be home in 10 min. hours go by and still not there and this goes on for hours. I found him that night at his friends house and confronted him about it and he would not look me in the eye. So I got pissed and stayed at my parents house that night. We talked the next day like everything was fine. It was just another day. Then Monday comes and his father calls me and asks me what's going on and I tell him not much casual conversation then he tells me that my ex and I broke up. I was flabbergasted. Then I talk to my ex and says "oh i love you i want you to be in my life, but i dont want to be in a relationship, blah, blah, blah,." so I bring the dog over the next day so he could watch her while I was gone for awhile. Well I come back to get the dog and I walk in on him while he's screwing someone else. He had a grin on him from ear to ear. The girl is someone he works with. She's number one on his myspace, status in a relationship, he erased all of my pictures from his myspace, there in love, and there all ready moving into together after a couple of weeks. We have mutual friends and they say he misses me and the dog, but he won't call. How can he do this after a year and half? I did absolutely everything for him. I bent over backwards to get us what we wanted. Oh and that whole night of the party we were going to was planned so I would get mad and break up with him. I don't know what went wrong? What happened? It came out of the blue. What does it mean? Can someone give me some incite on this? I'd greatly appreciate it.

[itried]

Some people are just losers and this guy sounds like just that. I know it's hard to hear given the initial shock and pain that you are going through but, trust me, you're definitely better off without this guy. In time you'll see this. Walking in on this guy having sex with a co-worker definitely precludes any reconciliation no matter what. He'll end up doing the same to this girl in the end; or maybe she'll do the same to him. To leave an actual relationship to be with someone that you just work with shows a deficit in character (he had a grin!) and this is not the type of person you want to be with. I mean how much can you really know about a colleague since all you know of them is their work demeanor? It's scandalous at best. Cry, scream, break some stuff. Do whatever it takes to get this douchebag out of your life and head. When you're ready, go out and find yourself a man.

[talaniman]

The coward was lying, and cheating, and deceptive, and has been that way far longer than you knew.

Sorry to sound harsh, but this didn't happen over night, and you probably never will know the things he did behind your back.

When the emotional dust settles, you'll see how lucky you are to be rid of this loser.

Sorry about your loss, and they way it happened. That was plain lowdown dirty on his part.