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wanaknow · Sep 14, 2006, 06:20 PM

Hey everyone,
Worst days ever!!
Listen ti this;
First of all I'm 23 years old.
A friend of mine wnted me and a guy she knows to meet,
So she gave him my number to call me,
He talked to me for about 3 days and we arranged to meet,
2 days ago we saw each other... he seemed to be happy, he mentioned somethimg about me being beautiful... 'n he told me that he'll call me back.

Now... he's never back!
I'm not that UGLY girl... I'm not miss world either... that's what I used to believe in...
It's really one of the WORST feelings ever!!

What happened?? And Why?!
I feel BAD!! It's really embarrassing!!

ilovcali · Sep 14, 2006, 06:25 PM

You saw each other TWO DAYS ago. Chill out. If he doesn't call, so what? You only saw him once. My mom called me two days ago, and I haven't called back yet. I HAVE A LIFE. You need to get one too if you're waiting for two days for some guy you met once to call you back.

Give it a week, if he hasn't called you, then call him. If you talk, see how it goes. If you get a machine, leave a message. If you don't feel the same spark on the phone, or if he doesn't call back, delete his number.

s_cianci · Sep 14, 2006, 06:44 PM

Relax and slow down! It's only been 2 days. What's the rush? He's probably a busy guy who doesn't have the time to call right back. You should be keeping busy too instead of obsessing over why someone hasn't called you back after just 2 days. He may call back or he may not. If he does then take it from there. If he doesn't then it's not the end of the world and there will be others.

JoeCanada76 · Sep 14, 2006, 06:48 PM

Your worried about this only after 2 days. I do not understand why your so clingy already after one date? I know this may sound rude. Who Cares that he did not call you back. Why is it such a big deal? It is called meeting people and dating. Too high of expectations on your part. Why should you feel bad? Go out have fun with your friends and enjoy yourself. You did before meeting this person, right? You can surly do it afterwards as well. It is not like any of you had a commitement.

Joe

J_9 · Sep 14, 2006, 06:50 PM

I agree, relax, you do not want to look or sound desperate. That is a major turnoff.

He may or may not call back, that is a chance you have to take. If he doesn't, chalk it up to experience and move on. This will neither make or break the rest of your life.

wanaknow · Sep 14, 2006, 07:01 PM

He will not call me back... he's not that busy guy, he used to keep in touch all the time..
What I want to know is why did that happen... everytging seemed to be okey!
What I'm thinking about now is What's wrong about me??
I've to be more confident, I know...
It just feels bad to be rejected by someone for a reason you don't know

J_9 · Sep 14, 2006, 07:19 PM

Please do not sound so desperate!! That is not attractive to men.

He is not necessarly rejecting you, he does not even know you.

What could be wrong is that he may be thinking that you are desperate or co-dependant, men run from attitudes like that.

Skell · Sep 14, 2006, 08:37 PM

I habe to go with everyone else here and advise you to calm down.
Slow down. Gee you only seen him 2 days ago. He probably doesn't want to come across as desperate and needy. Which frankly is exactly how you are coming across.
Cali gave you some good advice too if you want to contact him yourself.
But if you act this needy to him he probably won't ever call you back.
Surely you have other things to do rather than just sit by the phone waiting and worrying about when he will call.
So have fun and don't worry. That goes for when your on the date too!

wanaknow · Sep 14, 2006, 10:38 PM

I wasn't desperate and needy while being with him. He doesn't know anything about that.
It's just the feeling of Why whould a guy do that?
As I said before everything seemed to be okey... so what happened?
Could anyone tell me?

ilovcali · Sep 14, 2006, 10:45 PM

No offense, but if this is how you act after one date, YOU WILL DRIVE ANYONE you date nuts. You're not sounding healthy. IT'S ONE DATE!! You're 23, was this the first date ever in your life? I mean for real.

There are people on this board who were once engaged, or married, and their fiancés and spouses just up and left. People are weird, people are nuts, and people do awful things which have no explanation.

This guy, the one you're obsessed about, hasn't done ANYTHING WRONG. Nothing. You're acting absurd in my opinion. I'm sorry, it may sound harsh, but calm the hell down. If this is how you act after a first date, NO ONE WILL DATE YOU unless they're nuts.

CALM DOWN. NOTHING HAPPENED. Go watch TV, see a movie, go read a book, go out and get a drink with a friend. Maybe even get wasted. But please stop.

If you act like this before there is a problem, WHAT WILL YOU DO WHEN THERE IS A PROBLEM?

talaniman · Sep 15, 2006, 09:25 AM

Wanaknow, Hate to tell you but some times people don't click and they don't call back because they have other things to do and you must accept the fact that it happens to everyone. Yes it hurts but we all get over it and move on and so will you, so don't make this into a big deal, Its part of growing up and I understand your feelings so I will say to cry if you must but GET OVER IT!