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theboy5694 · Feb 3, 2009, 07:00 PM

I am now 15 years old, when I was about three or four a teenager that lived across the hall tricked me into giving him oral sex. I didn't know what it was at the time... but I did as time went on. I don't remember what his name is or what he looked like. I tried telling his father but the teen just denied it and the dad believed him. After that I have not told anyone. I keep trying to forget it but I can't. Should I tell my mom? If I should how would I go about telling her? PLEASE HELP ME!

bones252100 · Feb 3, 2009, 08:47 PM

For the sake of your mental health, you must tell at least one other person. It is not necessary that your friends be told. The guilt you feel is because you feel that you were the bad person. Obviously, you were NOT! Your mother would be the best place to start. You came out of her body & has cared for you all these years. She certainly does not want you to be hurting. Just tell her quietly "Mom, I I have a problem I'd like to tell you about when we get some privacy." She will certainly set aside that time for you. She will will be expecting you to tell her something far worse than you are going to tell her. This is not a big problem, if you will get it out! If you are uncomfortable with telling your mother, try a minister or a counselor at school.

Fr_Chuck · Feb 3, 2009, 08:59 PM

You need to get professional help, start by talking to your parents, and maybe a pastor or other religious leader of your faith.

I may consider not telling all of your friends, till you learn to deal with it yourself by getting professional help.

XM8 · Feb 4, 2009, 02:15 AM

Got to agree with the posts above. Tell your mother, or a pastor. You can't just keep that bottled up inside, it's not good for you.

-Xm8

artlady · Feb 4, 2009, 03:38 AM

I am so sorry that someone has taken advantage of you like this.
It is not your fault and you must talk this over with your Mom.
I would just say *Mom,I have something very important to tell you* and then tell her what happened.
Your Mom may have seen changes in you that she can't understand so while this will hurt her at least it will give you both a chance to begin to heal.Don't be afraid to tell the truth.You need to do this for your own healing.

ponyboyCJ · Apr 6, 2009, 05:30 PM

I have had a similar experience when I was young, but at least you've taken the first step by telling us.

I myself have not told an adult about my experience I instead told some of my close friends they have urged me to seek counseling but I've been to embarrassed and don't want to make a fuss.

It all depends on how you feel, how you are coping with it and who you have around you. So give it a try it's not as if you have done anything wrong.

jjwoodhull · Apr 6, 2009, 05:59 PM

Tell your mother and ask her to find a counselor for you. You deserve the opportunity to put this behind you and live a happy life. I think you should not tell your friends for now. First find a way to work through it with a professional. Good luck and let us know how you are doing.