[Zen Mei]

Hello. I'm new here, and I'm not sure how everything works, but I have a serious situation on my hands.

I believe my sister is addicted to meth, and my mother refuses to believe it. Her claim is that she did meth when she was younger (She has admitted to four uses), and didn't act anything like my sister is behaving. She refuses to look at any new information, believing that she is an expert in every field because she IS an expert chemist. She even refuses to believe that meth can be smoked.

I am very scared for my sister, and I believe she needs immediate help. My sister has lost her job and has no money, was evicted from her apartment for non-payment, even had her belongings auctioned off from a storage unit for non-payment. Now she plans to move from Texas to Chicago with her new seedy 29 year old boyfriend, who is also homeless and jobless, because he has a friend that MAYBE can get him a job. We found out later that he has a warrant for his arrest. When she visits family, she and her boyfriend sleep very deeply and for a very long time, once for a day and a half. She never answers her phone, she waits until she's ready to call you. And, most dramatically, she has lost almost 60 lbs since Christmas. She is a completely different person from 6 months ago!

I gathered my family to discuss my sister's issues, and we all agreed that she needs help. Until my mother spoke up. She managed to convince them that we had no proof other than hear-say (My sister's roommate called me with an eyewitness account, stating that her new boyfriend got her started on meth), and that maybe she is just very tired. The rest of the family then dissented, thinking that we had to catch her in the act before we could help her. The discussion ended with all of us agreeing not to let my sister know about our concerns, lest we scare her off more quickly to Chicago.

The VERY NEXT MORNING my mother called my sister and told her that I had the whole family believing she was on drugs. My sister now refuses to talk to me, barely contacts my family, and my mother refuses to tell me exactly what she said to my sister. I'm afraid my sister will run before I can get her the help she needs, and my mother is standing in the way.


What else can I do? Have I fought the good fight, and that's all I can do?

[twinkiedooter]

Sometimes all the efforts to keep another person from their doom makes no difference. Your sister has chosen poorly and will reap the consequences of her decisions to keep doing meth. Meth is a horrible drug habit that even if you wanted to quit, it's very hard to quit. I predict that her and boyfriend will both end up in jail. Maybe when she does end up in jail she might reach out to you or your family for help. In the meantime there is virtually nothing you can do for your sister.

Try and surf the net for some proof that you could show to mom that yes, meth can be smoked and yes, meth is highly addictive. Hopefully mom's eyes will be opened. I'm shocked that as a chemist she is so narrow minded about this drug. Give her some swell pictures of "before" and "after" of meth addicts and how their face and teeth are actually literally eaten by the meth. And all the weight loss is evident in the pictures as well. Ask mom - is THIS what you really want for your child and my sister??

[Zen Mei]

Sometimes all the efforts...

I have sent her tons of links and pictures, but she refuses to look at them. I think maybe she sees a bit of herself in my sister's situation, because my mother abuses Xanax, has no job, and now looks like Amy Winehouse from her previous years of drug use. I almost want to think she has jealousy issues that we would help the sister before we help the mother...

I feel out of options.