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tadita83 · Apr 4, 2009, 07:08 PM

Ok, there's this guy. He really likes me (so I hear from all the people that he has asked about me and shared his feelings with who then came back and told me all about it) and I really like him, but he hasn't asked me out yet. I'm so excited, but waiting is driving me CRAZY!!

So in attempt to pass the time 'til the next time I see him and I can "turn on the charm" in hopes of a date, I figured maybe someone else out there had a "waiting" story.

How long have you ever had to wait for a guy you knew was going to ask you out to ask you out?

What did you do to contain yourself until then?

It is so hard to keep my mind from wandering back to him during the day. Its crazy! I need to be smacked by something other than the love bug.

Anyway, lookin' forward to readin' you're story:D

HelpinHere · Apr 4, 2009, 08:29 PM

Well, as the guy, I haven't done the "waiting to be asked out" thing, but rather, in this situation, the "waiting for an answer" type of thing.
My longest wait in this fashion was a week:
What I did was, every day, in a non-pressuring way, ask again, and be flirty about it, trying to get her to give me an answer, but without forcing her to make the wrong decision...
It was a good way for me to get the wait over...

As far as your case goes, if he likes YOU, why don't YOU ask HIM out?! What's wrong with that?

I wish · Apr 4, 2009, 08:56 PM

Why can't you ask him out?

tadita83 · Apr 4, 2009, 08:57 PM

I've done that before, and as soon as I started the relationship that way, I had to do ALL the work as far as making plans throughout the whole relationship. So I'm trying to be patient and not go there. I'll give him a little bit longer at least.

I wish · Apr 4, 2009, 09:05 PM

Maybe you always likes guys who are too shy and aren't able to take the initiative, which is why you always have to do all the work. He seems to fit the description. Even if you continue to wait and he does ask you out eventually, you might still end up doing all the work later on.

tadita83 · Apr 4, 2009, 09:17 PM

Actually, he seems to be rather outgoing, just a little slow to action. He's taken more initiative in the last 4 weeks than any of the others (one crazy one excluded:-P) ever took during the whole relationship. He makes special trips to come see me and chat with me, just haven't gotten around to asking me out yet. I think he had it all planned out Friday, because he knows that I go to this one restaurant with my coworkers after work on most fridays, and he said he was going to go, unfortunately this was the one Friday I couldn't go. So I think I kind of unintentionally sabotaged his plan. Maybe after he has the weekend to regroup and "strategize" and maybe just maybe when I see him Monday he'll have worked up the courage to make a move:) (as you can see I've thought about this a lot)

HelpinHere · Apr 4, 2009, 09:22 PM

Well, it sounds like you really want this to work, and if you are not willing to ask him out, why don't you try to tell him to ask you out. Something along the lines of saying "Ooh, man, I have nothing to do this weekend" not necessarily TO him, but AROUND him, in a nonchalant way. I know that kind of thing has set me into action before.

Good Luck ;)

tadita83 · Apr 4, 2009, 09:25 PM

Thanks guys.

help888 · Apr 5, 2009, 04:09 AM

Romance is like wine,the longer you wait the better it gets,a little flirting from your side will help

tadita83 · Apr 5, 2009, 06:43 AM

I like that. That is totally my philosophy with this one. I feel like when I push and rush things it just messes it up. So I'm trying to be "chill" about this one. Thanks for the quote. I'll have to hold on to that one.

tadita83 · Jan 21, 2012, 04:48 PM

LOL! I just reopened my account. Read this question of mine from 2009. Funny story, the guy I was waiting to ask me out is now my husband and we have a 1-year old:-P Thanks to all those that gave advice:)