[samarsh]

Hey,
There's a boy I met my age and we started talking then after some time he told me that he liked me and asked me to be his girlfriend but I told him that I don't date and that's true but even afterwards we continued talking and flurting. The thing is I got attached to this guy A lot I even fell in love with him but still I'm from a concervative family that dates rnt an option in our lives. I need to know what should I do and how can I know if he loves me too or simply he's taking it all just for fun because I can't stop thinking of him I miss him so much especially that we don't talk a lot now because he's so busy working and his phone card is empty can you please help me as soon as possible.
Thanks

[valinors_sorrow]

Samarsh, how old are you? It is important to know since it will affect what people will answer here.

[samarsh]

I'm 19 years old and I'm going to university in a month

[valinors_sorrow]

Sweetie, I don't mean to rain on your parade but this isn't what you think it is. I know it feels very special and just so wonderful and all, but its really too soon for you to be talking love when its clear by your post that you really don't know him very well. It takes seeing him in all kinds of situations and in relation to all kinds of people (especially his family) to determine if he is trustworthy, especially with something as important as your heart. Girls who throw themselves at boys too easily get a reputation that, trust me, you don't want.

If I may ask... if you are not permitted to date, then what activities does your family support that allows you to get to know a prospective boyfriend? Perhaps you should be focusing on those instead of this one boy. Just a suggestion? You should also know there is no way for any of us to accurately determine what he has on his mind concerning you but that might be what your family can be helpful with. Could you invite him over to dinner?

[samarsh]

The thing is val, I've seen him around his friends and I know his parents pretty well and so does my family.. my family doesn't support the whole idea of having a boyfriend.. I don't know if its love I have but I wanted you to get the idea of how much attached I'm to him that I can't stop thinking about him... I like him for what he is I like him for what I am when I'm around him he've helped me somehow get over some personal complixities I had I've been so shy and so "living in an imaginary world" and with his help(un attentionaly ofcorse) I'm back to earth :P I don't know what to say I'm so confused

[valinors_sorrow]

I understand how attached you are and its okay to like him A LOT. I am relieved to hear you see him in many different settings. I hope you will focus on your studies and do some growing up while at university-- which can all get sadly sidetracked by a romantic involvement, by the way. That may be your familiy's concern for you. Its important to have a balance here. May I ask what reasons does your family give for being opposed to a boyfriend?

[samarsh]

Well val, the thing is I've tried to get myself busy and useful in many ways to turn my mind to think about other stuff I have work I even volenteer and I'm very active person and I have many plans for university and planning to succeed with a high average... my family as I mentioned are the kind of conservative family so the idea of dating and boyfriends is not acceptable for them I used to appose to the idea of dating too cozi thought that my heart and reputation is valuable for me that I'm not risking to make them a game for any guy but now after I met him I don't know wt I want I just know I miss him so much

[AKaeTrue]

The feelings you're having right now are hard to go through. They will start to fade. Is your family Conservative because of a religious belief? What about his family, do they have the same beliefs/ does he have the same beliefs?
Have you tried talking to your family about the feelings you're having, do they care about or even know what your going through?