[phili28]

Hi.
I have a 2 and a half year old and I'm also 13 weeks pregnant. I'm feeling OK . No sickness, but I'm tired.

I think/hope I'm suffering from mood swings, I hope this because I'm not copeing very well wth my 2 year old, she is driving me around the bend, normally I'm able to deal with her and am good at ignoring the whining, but recently I can't deal with her and am having outbursts of temper and anger and then I burst into tears with guilt and fear I'm nt going to be able to cope with a baby as well as a toddler.

My husband and I are falling out because he also find it hard to listen to out daughters constant whining. Normally I would be the one to sort it all out, but I can't deal with it without freaking out.

Our 2 year old is a happy girl, but is so demanding constantly needs to be interacted with, and I don't have the energy OK the patience.

Is this just a pregnancy symptom ? Is it normall? Will I get back to myself ?
:eek:

[JudyKayTee]

You appear - from your other posts - to be having a great deal of anxiety with this pregnancy. If you are having these concerns about your two year old now, you have to make some plans or talk to someone about what you are going to do when your husband is deployed and you are alone with an infant and a two year old.

I think - and I am by no means a medical expert - that you have to talk to a professional about your concerns, those same concerns that you've expressed many times on these boards.

[phili28]

My husband is not going to deployed. He will be around all the time. I think you might have muddeled with someone else. I'm not anxious about things, I'm just tired and stresed out, I'm quite relaxed about my pregnancy now, impassed 13 weeks, so my worries I had are passed about miscariages.

I just wantted to hear if anyone else was having the same feelings as me, and hoping its just hormones which are making me feel so tired and stressed.

[DoulaLC]

Two year olds can wear you out even when not pregnant! Being pregnant is physically challenging for many women... and you may find you will go in spurts with your energy level. Definitely nap, or at least put your feet up and rest, when your two year old takes a nap. A few other things you can try:

* have dad, a friend, or family member take her out once in awhile for one-on-one daddy/daughter time. She may do better running around at the park or something, and you will get a bit of time to yourself

* have as much of a routine that you can with her and try to stay consistent with it... when she eats, time that you play with her, naptime, story tiime, time to play outside, bathtime, etc. so that things will become very predictable for her

* try to head off any potential problem times where the whining may rear its ugly head... when she is hungry, tired, out of her element, etc..

* invest in some quiet activities you can either watch her or interact with her in... playdough, puzzles, coloring, reading books, drawing, etc.

* watch something like sesame street with her once in awhile... you can read a book, fold laundry, pay bills, etc. while you "watch"

* if you can afford it, maybe have her go to daycare two mornings a week or something to interact with other children. Or try and find a mommy and me type group in your area where you can get out with her and spend time with other mothers and their kids.

* try and be sure she has a bedtime that allows you and your husband to have at least an hour or two of quiet time in the evenings

* if there are any preteens or young teens in the neighborhood, "hire" one to be a mother's helper... they can come in for an hour or two a couple of days a week to "babysit" with your daughter while you get other things done around the house... or even go into your bedroom and read a magazine, take a shower, etc..

You have to do what you can to take care of YOU so that you can be in the best position to take care of your daughter.

[Tandah]

I'm 11 weeks, almost 12 weeks pregnant and I have a daughter who is a toddler, she's going to be 2 when I have the baby.
I feel your pain about having a demanding toddler who needs your attention, but unlike yourself, I have been very sick with morning sickness.
When I feel I can't take anymore of her, I put her in the playpen so she can learn to play with herself because she is going to have to learn when the baby comes. She is safe there, so if you want to go to another room to calm down, your able to.
Try and remember, it's not her fault you are stress and that your pregnant, try not to take it out on her.

[phili28]

Thank you for your supportive and helpful relpys.

[Jessica080806]

My daughter will be 2 next month and I am having a baby the same week of her birthday. It has been a very rough pregnancy between being tired and in pain and having to try and keep up with her energy level while taking care of her by myself the whole time and also home schooling my older son. I have had a very hard time keeping up with her and sometimes feel I am at my wits end. I have not had any help and fortunately I have a friend coming in from out of state right this very minute to help me. I am saved! Good luck

[ang8318]

My son is 20 months old and I also have a 1 month old son. Being pregnant was tough, really tough. I was sick, and tired, and having to chase him around. I managed though, a couple days a week I would send my son to my mother in laws just so I could relax, and in the evenings when my husband got home, I would lock myself in our bedroom for me time. I am sure glad I did that though, because I am a busy girl. Having a toddler and an infant is a lot of work. You can do it. I do it everyday. I just have a routine and stick to it, works well for me. Hope all goes well for you.

[jane1988]

Hiya huni I know exactally how your feeling I am 39weeks pregnant now and my darling 2year old has been an absolute nightmare. I felt the same at the beginning with the sickness it was like when I was having a really sick day he would play up even more my bathroom has been flooded 3 times this pregnancy also he bacame very cheeky and when my back went bad he knew I couldn't pick him up if he was lying on the floor so he would tantrum and lie down so I couldn't pick him up and take him upstairs.
When I got around 26weeks I couldn't cope anymore I was so tiered and always shouting or crying because I felt so bad for shouting so I sat with my hubby and told him I needed help with him he gets home from work at 1/2 5 and Alex goes to bed at 7.30 that is now there time I go and get a bath even sit in my room and watch tele or have a sleep he comes and says good night to me and then I go downstairs and have my evening a lot less stressed with my husband also I get an early night because I am much happier when I have slept and he doesn't wind me up as much it sounds awful but I was never like this before I was pregnant so it must be hormonal.
During the day our routine is 7.30 breakfast he plays with his toys and generally runs round mad 10 we have some toast and a story about 11.30 we go out on his bike only around the block but it helps getting out the house and then we have lunch after lunch we do some colouring or play dough and then around 3.30 we go the park for an hour if its not raining and the rest of the time is playhouse disney and his toys. I find by getting out during the day we are both calmer and he doesn't whinge as much.
Hope you can find some activities together and as much as your feeling rubbish just remember how boring a day in is for these little ones and tell her how good she is whhen you do have to have a day in.
Hopefully it settles once baby is here I'll let you know how I am feeling in a week or 2.