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    jojo114 Posts: 67, Reputation: 3
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    Apr 1, 2009, 05:06 PM
    Im 15 he's 21.is that OK?
    OK so I've known this guy for a while now. Every time we talk more and more we find out how many things we have in common. I enjoy talking to him. Its just the age difference its, too much. Im going to turn 16 in July and he's going to turn 22 a month later. I think I can trust him he doesn't sound like a pedofile. Hes really nice,attentive and funny.I just wish he was a bit younger. We've talked about age before and it doesn't really seem to matter to him. Should I feel scared or stupid for knowing this guy and going on into this kind of relashionship, is it normal? Helpp
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    Apr 1, 2009, 05:27 PM

    There is nothing wrong with nfatuation with older people. In your situation, the problem begins when it changes from conversation to physical contact. Then it could become real bad for you. In addition, he would be legally marked as a sexual offender for the rest of his life. For these reasons, do not encourage nor accept any "touchy-feely" conversations.
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    Apr 1, 2009, 06:01 PM
    I wouldn't do it. He shouldn't be going after a girl your age if he's that old. He should be mature enough to know not to go there. Age difference isn't bad when your nears the same maturity level. But there is a lot of growing up to do between 15 and 21. Wait and you will find someone your age that you will get to do stuff with you both enjoy. I can't see your parents letting you see someone that old. If your truly like this guy then you would want him to be involved with your family. Plus 16 gets you 20.
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    Apr 1, 2009, 06:08 PM

    The best advice is to pay attention to what he does and not what he says...
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    Apr 1, 2009, 06:16 PM

    Now I don't know that guy but the first thing that I notice is that he does not have a problem with the age difference which is a problem within itself. He is an adult and although I'm sure at your age you can make your own judgements on who you hang out with legally you are still a child and if he has absolutley no quams about that then there is something that he is holding back. I think that if he is willing to be friends with you until you of legal age then go for it but I feel that you should wait until you are 18 to make any decisions about taking your relationship any further. If he can respect that then it will give you time to really learn more about him and how much you can trust him. Besides the best relationships are the ones who start as good friends first.
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    Apr 1, 2009, 06:34 PM
    Well first of all you are young, really young to go out with a 21 year old guy. Let's say you are 25 and the guy is 31 this would still be OK. But in your situation you will have trouble going along with this guy. You are still young and enjoy your teenage years. And remember, everything changes when physical attraction goes away.
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    Apr 1, 2009, 06:37 PM

    If a 15 and 21 year old have a lot I common there is a problem with one of them, Is the 21 year old man very childish, not mature perhaps.

    But the issue with a pedofile is that they won't seem like one, they make you feel special,
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    Apr 1, 2009, 09:05 PM

    Yea he could be looked at as a sexual predator because you are so young and who is attracted to someone so young.You have to think about if he is just tryn to talk to you because maybe he thinks he can control the situation and you will follow easily.

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