[smb15]

I went to Florida over the summer time to visit my buddy, and that's where I first met his sister. We had some type of a connection, but she had a boyfriend. After I went home we talked via text ever so often, then in January we started talking everyday. We both liked each other, and then she came up to visit her brother, but basically to see me. The weekend was amazing everything went well, and she left to go home and wanted to be a couple and try the long distance relationship. I liked her since the summer so I was all for it, we talked every all day for the next few weeks. Then I went down to Florida to visit her, everything went well for the first few days, and then all of sudden it went sour. Before I knew it I decided to leave 4 days early as she ended it. She said I wasn't before enough and I didn't act like we where together. Which was true, but everything went well until one night, when I made jokes about wishing I was with her brother during spring break because they were with 14 girls. Ever since that comment all of sudden everything changed, it became awkward. So I left and she kept asking why am I leaving, and telling me to stay and hangout with her brother. Never once mentioning that we could work it out. She said she stopped liking me, I don't know how that's possible when one minute we were fine. After thinking about it for a week I realized that I wanted her back, and wrote a really great letter to her about everything that happened. She told me she was going to read it and I'm pretty she did and never repsonded back to me. Before I went down there she was telling how she was basically falling in love with me and my question what is she thinking and where did it go wrong. Is there anything I could do to try to get her back, or should I just give up and move on.

[hornistAdam]

Well, I kind of went through the same thing.

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Give her as much space as she needs, but let her know every once in a while that you're there for her. And try to avoid talking about other girls. Some girls will never be able to understand that men can be sexually attracted to other women and still love them.

She's probably mad right now. Let things cool down, then talk to her about it again. If she still says you're done, you have to get over it. I know you probably don't want to hear that, but it's for the best.

[jeffrey michael]

Sound like there is something else that's missing, like she is not telling you everything. A comment like the one you said is not enough to break up a couple there is something else going on. But like adam said give her a little space and maybe in a few days you can talk to her and get to the bottom of what's really bothering her.

[liz28]

Why is she giving you so much over that comment. Even though it was done with poor taste, a break-up is to the extreme. Is she insecure?

If she could break-up with you because of that, I wouldn't want to be with her because she is hot temper because she act out of anger. Could you image if the two of you had a real argument? She might have had your head. She can even talk about what is bothering her and without communication what do you have? Nothing!

Btw, what ever happen to her brother? If she left him for you than you have to judge her present behavior from her past behavior. I just hope this doesn't affect your friendship with her brother.

[smb15]

Yea she def is very insecure, and she really acted very immature during the whole process. Even before I went down there, she was saying how she's never liked someone this fast before and how all she thought about was me. When she came up here for that weekend everything went so well, maybe the expectations were just too high for both of us. She told everyone how happy I made her and how I was this amazing guy. That's a lot of pressure to live up to the hype and I was def very nervous I couldn't live up to it. I did act diffrently but I didn't know all her friends, I'm not the type of guy who can just talk to everyone like I'm best friends. It takes me a while to get comfortable around people. She said I didn't act the same, and I didn't hold her hand and being affectonate, but I just don't understand how that should effect how she feels towards me. Also after I sent the letter, I texted ask if she read it and never responded which is weird because she always answers me. The whole situation is just really screwed up, maybe it was just a fling, but if she liked me as much as she said she did, I don't understand how that just goes away because we had one bad day. She broke up with me by changing her myspace thing, and then wouldn't even talk to me about it. I'm 21 and she's 19 and last time I checked you don't just break up with someone and give them no reason why and won't talk to you about it. I prob shouldn't have left, could have tried to work it out, but it was def a decision I regret.

[friend4u178]

You guys were in the dating stage and getting to know each other. No one decides on the spot that they want to quit a relationship because of 1 incident so it sounds more like its something that had been brewing in her for a while.

Your obviously more into her than she is to you but better you find out early than later when you have both invested a lot of energy into something that wouldn't work out in the end.

Happens all the time and its just the process we all have to go through until we find "The one" so just take in the experience and move on. There'll be others along the way.

[LeahSam]

Don't talk about other girls! Don't even show interest, and realize that a lot of girls are sensitive, which I'm sure she probably is.. I know I'm really sensitive, if she tells you to leave and you leave, thatll be a problem because she wants you to actually stay and she wants to test you to see if you actually want to stay... Show her affection too at all times, I had a situation like this when I had a boyfriend that didn't actl ike we were going out and it made me so mad and sad... kiss her lots and cuddle her etc. guys are like a quarter, either one side or another, and girls are like a fat stack of money, milllions of pages. Ull never understand lol

[smb15]

No she was more into me then I was to her at first. It was her idea to do the long distance. She was always the one to call me and text me.

[JBeaucaire]

She's practicing her feminine ways. It takes hard work to treat someone you like badly, and some girls are determined to make sure her guys are on the defensive as much as possible.

If they break up with you, it's all drama, it's all weird. Nothing's ever simple.

If she gets REALLY good at her manipulations, you'll be thinking about her and pining and wondering forever.

It's sad. But it's very common.

You should know, there are a TON of girls out there who are self-confident and self-assured to the point that they actually enjoy making the guys they date fell GOOD about themselves. Imagine that! Imagine dating someone who doesn't have time for pettiness.

Imagine dating someone who forgives you for mistakes, who gets your jokes, even when she's the brunt of the joke. Imagine having someone in your life who finds ways to lift you up for no reason at all.

Dream about that girl, then go find her.

[chuff]

She's probably dating someone else and wanted an out. You gave it to her when you made that joke. You did further damage when you wrote her that letter because that put you on the defensive and was basically a way to beg her back. Given that you two don't even live near each other she has no reason to even keep you around on the back burner as she would have if you did live closer.

[talaniman]

Don't trip you will never know what she was thinking of. Trust me, you really don't want to know!

Chalk it up, and keep it moving!