[sa10323]

How long should a girl wait to have sexual intercourse with a guy? Will he view her any different?

[artlady]

That depends on the guy how he would view her.

Some men think its O.K. to hook up after a few dates,some men would say that is slutty.

I think you should wait until you feel that you know the person and trust them and I don't think that can be established in a few dates.

The longer you wait the more fulfilling it will be.Sex without some true intimate feeling besides lust is lacking.

Its better when you have the whole package.

[DoulaLC]

It is going to depend on the individuals involved. If your moral standards dictate you wait until marriage, then don't let yourself feel pressured into going ahead before that time. The pressure can be enormous if you feel like "everyone" else is doing it... they're not, or if you are with a guy who gets angry with you if you won't... he's not worth your time if that is the case. Do you love him? Truly love him? Does that matter to you?

If sex before marriage is not a concern for you, then you will have to decide what your feelings for this other person are and what you are and aren't comfortable with.

Guys will all be different... some will go out with a girl who they know will put out, but not really want a lasting relationship with them. Some will say they really care about you, may even tell you that they love you, and that if you loved them you would have sex with them. Some will leave it up to you to decide and not pressure you. Some will prefer to wait until marriage as well.

How soon is too soon? Everyone will have a different opinion. Will he think differently of you if you have go ahead early in the relationship?. Maybe, maybe not. He may tell you he won't, just so that he can have sex with you, because he knows it is what you want to hear. You will have to decide how well do you know this person. How much do you trust them to be honest with you.

Keep in mind... anytime you have sex, a baby can be the result... even with birth control. Is this a person you would want to have a baby with? Would you be able to care for a baby at this time of your life if you were to become pregnant? Don't think it can't happen to you... it happens everyday.

Always, always use protection and make sure he uses a condom. Two forms of contraception will lessen the chances of an unplanned pregnancy, and condoms, used correctly, can also protect you from a STD... which many people don't even know they have.

Sorry for the book... but it is a big decision... that too many take lightly. I can't tell you how many questions we answer from girls and guys who find themselves in a situation with an unplanned pregnancy and don't know what to do. Much to consider and it can be potentially life changing.

[I wish]

It depends for everyone. There's no set time, it's when both of you feel ready.

[dontknownuthin]

I agree with Doula. When I was young, I had a personal code that I lived by that served me very well. First, I did not have sex until I felt that if a child resulted, I would be able to financially support that child and myself without the support of my parents or the father. For me, that was when I had an apartment of my own, was nearly done with college and was paying all my own bills.

Second, the decision had to be mine, not the man's. He could decide if he wanted to, and I had to decide for myself. It was conditional. I owed it to them to be on contraceptives to prevent pregnancy, the man owed it to me to use a condom to prevent disease. If a man is too cool for a condom, he's not for you. He didn't use them with the other people he's been with and he's a risk to your health!

And it had to mean something. To me sex is an expression of love, and if I didn't love the person, it wasn't going to happen. This business of hooking up in bars and such, well - I would never do it. Sex is not something to decide on because you're drunk or your boyfriend has worn you down, or for any other stupid reason that amounts to losing control over your own decisions and body.

When you are ready, you will feel ready and will not have apprehension about whether you should do it or not. Until then, there's a lot people can do short of intercourse and the right man will appreciate that you are not quick to go to bed with people.

[FckDudesPipes]

Well I had sex with the guy when I was ready and felt save but when we finally had sex he left and that 3 months into the "relationship"

[Ladyhelp]

I think if your 18 and older you should have sex but if your under 18 and older you should not have sex do you guys and girls agree if agree hit helpful

[Ladyhelp]

I really think that if your not 18 or older that u should not have sex at all because its wrong for under age kids to have sex