Is he using me?

haleyisamazing1 · Mar 30, 2009, 10:31 AM

Hey, I'm new here. So I'm pretty young I guess, but my boyfriend and I have known each other for a long time, and just last year we started dating. It's been five months, and he told me I had a nice , and sexy legs. He also tells me that he won't do anything that I'm not comfortable with. And he tells me he loves me all the time. He holds my hand, and kisses me on the cheek, and is a perfect gentleman; open doors for my mother and me, helping with something, helping my mom around the house. But I don't know if he's using me for my body? Or if he truly loves me, and if the whole "body" part is just a perk for him. PLEASE ANWSER BACK ASAP!

JoeCanada76 · Mar 30, 2009, 10:37 AM

So you started as So I am pretty young I guess.

How young are you?

5 months is not a long time for dating. Your still getting to know each other.

He helps you and your mom out and being a perfect gentleman.

Body part is a perk for him, Why are you concerned about this? If he finds you attractive, is that a bad thing to you?

Justwantfair · Mar 30, 2009, 10:38 AM

Telling you that he likes the way your body looks, is not the same as being used for your body.

Sounds like you are just dating.

I wish · Mar 30, 2009, 10:41 AM

Sounds like he has trouble telling you that you are beautiful. He chooses to use other words.

Doesn't sound too serious to me, after 5 months he hasn't forced you to do anything that you are uncomfortable with, so I don't see the problem.

If it really bothers you that much, you should just confront him about it.

Romefalls19 · Mar 30, 2009, 10:44 AM

I don't see a problem with the way he is acting, doesn't exactly scream "user" to me. Perhaps he could have used a better choice of words but I can still see his side. Take the compliment, sounds like you have a good guy on your hands with him helping your mom out and all.

liz28 · Mar 30, 2009, 10:54 AM

In order for him to be using you he has to ge gaining something. In this case, it seems like he is just trying to win your over.

He isn't trying to use you for sex, money, etc So I don't see any harms in his actions and don't understand your reasons for being alarm.

Most females would love to have a guy like yours. However, it might be your age that is making you question his actions or you just unable to accept it.

slapshot_oi · Mar 30, 2009, 11:36 AM

If you think his behavior indicates he's up to something and that it's too good to be true, then it will be.

Chill out and get your head in the game.

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