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mrsbloodworth · Mar 30, 2009, 09:10 AM

No matter what I do I'm cheating on him. I have cheated on him before and he has cheated on me and don't tell me that my marriage is over I don't want to hear that because its not true. There are plenty of people who make it through it. I haven't cheat on him since then and he is still saying that I am. I learned me lesson. But I am thinking that's he is cheating on me and he is directing it towards me to get it off him please help me!!

DoulaLC · Mar 30, 2009, 09:19 AM

He might be cheating, he might not be... maybe he is trying to deflect it onto you. Maybe he really is concerned that you are cheating again. Unfortunately, while your marriage may not be over, the trust is... at least for now.

Both of you are going to have to work at assuring the other that all is well and that you are committed to making your marriage better. It may mean counseling, it may mean not being out of each other's sight anymore than necessary, it may simply mean having frequent heart to heart talks about rebuilding the trust and honesty in your relationship and living your lives as open books for each other. That may include access to e-mail, texts, cell phones, whatever it will take for both of you to feel the other is being open and honest.

After all, if you can't trust each other, or believe the other person is being honest with you, what is the point of staying married?

artlady · Mar 30, 2009, 09:21 AM

If you do not have trust in your relationship,you have a relationship in trouble.

Cheating does that,it destroys the foundation of a marriage and it takes a lot of work to make things right.If ever.

I suggest marriage counseling.

It will not only help with the trust issues but help you to understand why you both cheated.