[wisher]

But I don't want to tell him, for
1. I want him to propose to me later.
2. he and I are college students now; we don't have much money.
3. I am afraid I will mess up things if I tell him.

But I love him. My honest feeling is that I want to be his wife.

Should I wait for him?
Should I let him know how serious I am?

Thank you for your time!

[JoeCanada76]

Everybody is different.

Have you told him that you love him, right.

How series do you think he is with you?

This is a hard one... It is easy to give advice, but you need to do what you feel is right.

I would say though in my own opinion. Be patient there is no rush right now.

[wisher]

He already makes some sacrifice for me. He is from CA, but he would like to stay in MO to further education at the same graduate school as mine. And he invited me to his home in summer too.
I told him I love him, and he always told me back.
But he said we didn't have spark. And I know my personality is too quiet for him, but I still love him.
Do you think he is serious to me?

[JoeCanada76]

It sounds like he is but what does he mean by no spark? Different personalities can still get along together. About marriage though, I would not think so. It is way too early... You might be feeling ready but He might or is not ready. I know you do not want to push him away. Patience and time together and getting to know each other is best at this point. To early to mention marriage. Especially considering you still have a lot of time and life experiences to go through.

[liz28]

If the both of you love each other why the rush to get married? Especially since you had a talk to him about your relationship and he is telling you that there is no spark? The two of you need to work on getting a spark instead of you worrying about getting married.

The two of you are in college and you stated your fiancés aren't right right now anyway. Another reason not to rush marriage. Finish college, get settle in your career of choice, and live together for a while. Then see how things work out.

There are more than 1 ways to show your love for someone that doesn't includes get married. Before married should even consider getting the marry the relationship should be in order and both parties have to want to this this.

[wisher]

Even though I am young now, and I have lots of things to go through later on, I still look forward to my happiness. If I find someone who is understanding and loves me truly, I surely can't wait to marry him.
I don't want to waste my time on experiencing boyfriends. Life is short. I never thought those who dated lots of people and who finally get their heart settled are winners in life. Some people enjoy playing when they are young and energetic. Yet some people enjoy being serious all through their life. I personally will not marry a much older person who might be wealthy and experienced, because I think things are too favorable for them. And it is not fair. I would like to find a man at my age, and we become old together.
Thanks for all the answers.

[neverme]

How old are you now?

How long have you two been going out?

[Jake2008]

Sometimes there is no spark in the beginning.

It was like that with me. I thought in the beginning that my friends were nuts setting me up with this fellow who was the total opposite to me. I was outgoing, he was shy. I liked rock, he liked ballads, I liked socializing, he liked being a wallflower. Etc. etc!

But, what started with no 'spark' turned into a very good friendship, and then, it turned into love a few years later.

That few years has turned into a 33 year relationship.

Old friends still to this day call us 'The Odd Couple'.

Take your time, if it was meant to be, that spark will eventually come.