[Allmixedup]

Where do I start?
I had been with my boyfriend for just over a year and half and before this we were really good friends with all his best friends also being mine. We were both completely in love there is no doubt about that however as time went on we gradually started growing more distant. We would see each other quite often and when we were physically together we were amazing but we didn't really communicate when we were apart. This got worse and our sex lives became less passionate, we spoke less generally became less like a couple. I brought up the subject believing we were still in love and could sort things out. We broke up a month ago and the whole situation has spiralled out of my control. I never wanted us to end just change things but from his point of view we are over. Since then I am constantly upset and whenever I start to feel more positive I think of what I have lost and break down in tears again. We had the summer mapped out, the whole of our group of friends were going to go on holiday and life was great but now I am faced with the situation that I either don't do any of the things we had spoke about and face sitting at home when all my friends are having a great time without me or go out but have to face him and pretend like I am OK with us being friends. I feel so alone. I have to either see my ex all the time or face losing not only him but all my friends as well. People have told me to go out and make new friends. I have joined clubs etc and have no problems meeting new people but they aren't the people I would say go out clubbing with or could go on holiday with.
Over night I feel like my whole life has to change if I am to be happy but I don't know where to start. Im still in love yet I have to get over this at the same time as trying to build a new life. I will get through this but I wondered whether anyone has any advice or has experienced something similar?
On top of all this I have the massive decision of whether to go to university. In my gap year completely by accident I have fallen into a really good job with huge prospects and pays really well with good job security however I don't enjoy what I do. I want to go to Uni but feel like it is stupid to give up on a job which is so good during. This combined with losing friends and the man I love is starting to get on top of me.

Thanks,

Lucy

[talaniman]

You seem to be overwhelmed, and face many life changing decisions.

Prioritize as the most important investment is one for your future, so Uni sounds like the way to go, and it will give you a chance to change your scenery, and friends, as you unwind your life from his.

The emotional dust from the break up will settle in time, and even better, if your not floating in the same circle.