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richboyjohnson · Mar 19, 2009, 11:01 AM

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She gives me mixed signals, and it seem like shae only wanted to be bothered on her time. She only calls me when she needs me. When I need her, she complains when I ask for a little of her time to comfort me, what should I do leave or stay. I really love her but, I fed up with the games.

spitvenom · Mar 19, 2009, 11:04 AM

You are her safety net. She knows that you will always be there to to listen and comfort her no matter what she does to you. But to answer your question LEAVE!!

HistorianChick · Mar 19, 2009, 11:15 AM

If she is your ex, she should be your ex. She shouldn't be coming to you for help and you shouldn't be depending upon her to be there when you need her.

There is a reason why some people are in our pasts - because they don't fit in our futures.

Leave your ex in the past and go on into your bright, shiny future.

It is only for your own good. Don't worry about if she loves you or not. She's your ex.

ZoeMarie · Mar 19, 2009, 11:19 AM

Don't make yourself so available to her. spitvenom is right. You are her safety net. Don't settle for that

richboyjohnson · Mar 19, 2009, 11:20 AM

Okay thanks for the advice

liz28 · Mar 19, 2009, 11:22 AM

Leave and put a pad lock on that chapter of your life. Time to start a new one.

richboyjohnson · Mar 19, 2009, 11:28 AM

I also thinks she is using me for money, because she calls when her phone bill is due or if she needs some money, then she acts like a , and rude to me

richboyjohnson · Mar 19, 2009, 11:34 AM

Every time I tell my ex I'm leaving her and not to call me anymore, she stops calling for maybe a week. Then out of the blue she calls and ask me how I'm doing or anything. Then the next thing is she needs something. So I ask her what, and she tells me then I do it for her, then she acts weird again, or acts like she does not care. Sometimes I feel she has a pride issue. I really think she does not respect me, and she won't until I leave her alone.

spitvenom · Mar 19, 2009, 11:35 AM

Rich stop giving her money. She is using you and probably laughing at you when you aren't there.

kctiger · Mar 19, 2009, 11:36 AM

So... leave her alone...

Not sure why you are doing this to yourself as the solution is pretty obvious.

richboyjohnson · Mar 19, 2009, 11:41 AM

We were together for four years, and she never had sex with me. When I asked she had a excuse, or would try to say that's all I wanted from her to get me to stop asking. She told me to jack off, or do what I do. She acted like she was too good for me or something

Romefalls19 · Mar 19, 2009, 11:43 AM

Stop picking up the phone!

richboyjohnson · Mar 19, 2009, 11:45 AM

Im 20 years old, I work and attend msu, and I'm in the engineering program, I have my oan house, cars, starting my own business, I have a bright future, and I wanted to share my success with her, when I asked her why does she love me, she could not even give me a answer, but when I tell her how I feel, she does not want to hear it at all. I'm tired of the bull, but I really do love her and I know I need to let go,a and I need to stop holding on, somebody help me from this hell hole.

spitvenom · Mar 19, 2009, 11:50 AM

Ask yourself this question every time you think of her or get sad that she is not with you. Why do I want to be with a person who doesn't want to be with me?

excon · Mar 19, 2009, 12:07 PM

Hello rich:

Why?? Gimme her number and I'll ask her.

But, before I do, I want to know why you stayed?

excon

nikosmom · Mar 19, 2009, 12:17 PM

We tell the ladies this all the time- if the other person isn't interested in maintaining the relationship, why are you staying in it? It sounds like she's using you since she only calls when she needs something. You sound like a swell guy, maybe a little gullible, but she's taking advantage of you. Move on because I'm sure there's a woman out there that will appreciate you.

ZoeMarie · Mar 19, 2009, 12:26 PM

Is this the same girl that calls you now when she needs money? It sounds to me like she's not even worth the time and energy of trying to figure out. She sounds totally selfish!

I wish · Mar 19, 2009, 12:26 PM

Well... you can either ask her directly what's going on... or just don't bother picking up the phone. Unless you want to keep going the way it's going.

I'm surprised that you lasted this long. She doesn't seem to like to give you straight answers. You don't need to think about your ex anymore. Go find another girl. Plenty of fish in the sea.

richboyjohnson · Mar 19, 2009, 12:30 PM

Yea the same one

richboyjohnson · Mar 19, 2009, 12:32 PM

She knows that other girls try to talk to me,and she do not like that. She calls the females es and say they just tryna use me. And says she is not gone come second to anybody.