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confused540 · Mar 16, 2009, 12:47 PM

OK,I have an 1 1/2 year old boy.His father has lived in the same apt complex since before day1.He doesn't see his son daily, sometimes weekly and at one time for over a month.He has 6 kids, 3 living in the same apt complex.2 of his kids stay every weekend with him.But he won't even watch my son for 15mins.Paternity has already been established and so has child support.I don't know what route to take now.I told him I'll take him off child support if he becomes invlolved wit his son, but still.. nothind.We go to court at the end of the month and I'm either going to request to the judge lock him up(he hasn't paid child support ever and has been on since Dec.26,2007) or get him to sign his rights up.I need help,answers, EVERYTHING! :confused:

ScottGem · Mar 16, 2009, 12:55 PM

The judge is not likely to terminate his rights. Nor can he be forced to be a father.

The most you can do is enforce the child support.

Fr_Chuck · Mar 21, 2009, 05:50 PM

Ok, since this is in Children not law, I will agree with George, he had 5 other children, several in the same apartmenmt complex, and you had a child with him and figured he was going to be different with you??

But no, you file for custody, and most likely he won't even fight it, so he wll not have any more than you give him. You can not force him to visit. And with ( was it 5 or 6 ) other children, I would even assume the amount you are going to get for support will be lower if the rest have child suport orders in place already

KARRAJ · Mar 22, 2009, 02:37 PM

To be honest, if I were in the same situation, I wouldn't even bother. As mush of importance it is for the father to be involved. If he isn't willing to spent time with his child, then don't bother. I have 3 kids of my own. I will not put them through the dissapointment. I am speaking from experience. Their father did them the same way. He also disclaimed them as his children. I kept him on child support and went on with my life. Found me a man that considers my kids as his. We are one big happy family. If you force him to see the child. It will hurt you knowing that if he does see or take up time with the child, it by force. You will know deep down in your heart that he really doesn't want to. But he will do it only to keep him out of trouble.

Jake2008 · Mar 22, 2009, 03:12 PM

To confused540, I am not judging you, as others have here. That is not supposed to be what you should expect when asking a question in my humble opinion. It is, after all, HELP Desk.

When you do go to court, find out what your options are with regard to enforcing child support. The father of your child may not be willing NOW to establish a relationship with him, but nobody can predict the future. Consider all your options to provide the best possible care for him. If you qualify for legal assistance, or aid, do what you need to do for yourself, and your son.

Do not be intimidated with how others have judged you. You cannot turn back the clock. You can only deal with what you have in front of you right now.

Do your best to see that your son's needs are met, and he has a stable home. Any good mother would do the same.

Good luck to you.