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Andrewstunna334 · Mar 15, 2009, 07:57 PM

Okay so I've known this girl for about 2 or 3 years now, and wev been good friends up until about a month ago. Like we were really close and she is prettty much my best friend of the opposite sex.

Then, a little whule ago, I guess it was inevitable, we started getting all flirty or whatever. Next thing I know she likes me and I like her back. And, I've told her I like her but she doesn't know how much. Ive said like kind of but I actually like her A lot. And she said she likes me, but she also might have feelings for this other guy. LEts call him, "skippy".

So I have asked if she likes me or skippy more, but she always says she's not sure. Overall, I'm not sure what I should do about this whole thing or what I should I do to win her over. Response is realllyy appreciative.

nikosmom · Mar 15, 2009, 08:12 PM

You said you've been friends for a number of years, just I'd just play it cool for a little while. Just back off and continue to be friends. Is she leading you on?- if not, give her a little time. She may not be ready to trade in a friendship just yet- many people get scared because if it doesn't work it's very hard to go back to being friends.

none12345 · Mar 15, 2009, 10:27 PM

AHHHH the unsure thing. Happened to me my ex broke up with me because she is unsure who she wants to be with me or the "other guy".

Well I think in your case, you can continue to be her friend and be understanding to her and talk to her about things that are personal to her and try to help her out and she ll see that you were always there for her and she might just end up picking you.

If she decides to go with the other guy and made it clear. Than ask yourself are you okay with her being just friends with you? Do you truly love her? Think about that. If you figure out that you're okay being just friends and knowing it will never be more than keep being her friend but if it hurts too much to see her with another guy than I guess its time to move on and the easiest way is to not contact her at all.

talaniman · Mar 19, 2009, 08:51 AM

You don't have to do anything. Its natural for friends to like each other a lot. But that doesn't mean there is romance in the air. Don't confuse your friend, and ruin a friendship over some feelings you have, but she doesn't.

I wish · Mar 19, 2009, 12:48 PM

The "unsure" thing can drive people crazy.

But... if you really like her, you can tell her how much you like her and then back off to let her decide what she wants.

Or just be straight up, don't ask her who she likes more (for all you know there could be a bunch of other guys on her mind), so just ask her to be your girlfriend. If she likes you she will be with you. If she gives you the "i don't know" answer, chances are she doesn't really like you. In which case, decide if you want a "yes" or "no" answer or you want to accept her answer and live in uncertainty.

unspeaken21 · Mar 19, 2009, 05:40 PM

OK...

I suggest you stay being her friend and let her decide..

The reason why I'm saying this is because if she starts dating you she might start thinking how it would have been like with the other guy and apart of her would still be thinking of him...

If she starts to date the other guy don't worry... you guys have been friends for a long time... in the end I'm pretty sure she'll come to you...

So let her decide... but this doesn't mean you shouldn't be sweet, and most importantly be yourself... because that is the guy she likes...